Tuesday, July 17, 2012
My story is complicated, but I believe you can help.
I was always a hustler, but my passion has been music and the entertainment industry. While trying to get my music off the ground I had to have more than a regular job income. So, I have never held a job, but I always had money. My wife has been with me from the beginning – you could almost say high school sweethearts – and I always did everything I could to make her happy and take care of our kids. She would encourage me to get a job here and there and I’d listen for a second, but the money and things I would bring home would quiet the conversation. I would get little jobs here and there, but the money I got on the street was so much more and faster that I never stuck it out.
We lived a good life up until a few years ago when one of the things I was involved in caught up to me and we lost our house in a police raid. She had to go stay with her family and I stayed with mine while I had to pay lawyers to stay out of jail. While we were separated she started dating and going out with other people. I didn’t at first – and we went back and forth with each other for a long time, but she would always stop herself from coming all the way back to me. We had talked divorce numerous times but she never would go file. Every time the subject came up she would say she was going to do it. We are coming up on being separated for 2 years and she just recently went out of town on a plane with the guy she is seeing now. I went and filed after that, but ultimately I don’t think that is what I want. The women I have been seeing are not what I really want, but part of me feels like I need to move on. So what’s my next move? We have two beautiful kids and I didn’t want to put them through this. I would love to put it all back together. What do I do? – Hustler Trying To Do Right
You can read my response, HERE:
Wednesday, July 11, 2012
I’m a 24-year old newly divorced single mom.
I’m in the military and living off-post. Eight months ago a new couple moved next door to us (my husband and I before the divorce). My neighbor is 20-years old and his wife is 37-years old. They seemed cool so we started doing couple dates and hanging out and stuff. Me and her became closer over the months, but things between me and my hubby got bad, and she and her husband began to separate as well.
My husband left me and my son soon after, and it was long overdue. I was so happy for my newly found freedom. Then, my neighbor tried talking to me about what he and his wife were going through. I denied him several times until I noticed we were both going through similar problems. They met when while she was teaching at his school and he was 15-years old at the time when they started dating. Now, he wants to divorce her and she won’t have it. The more we talked, the more we see to have in common. My son absolutely loves him, seriously. And, he wants to be with me and my son so badly. But, I am feeling really badly for having feelings for him when I have been cool with his wife. I don’t want to hurt her by ‘betraying’ her. They haven’t been married a year yet, but she clearly doesn’t want the divorce and he is trying. What do I do? – Confused Love
You can read my response, HERE:
Thursday, July 5, 2012
Most recently, ODD Future singer, Frank Ocean, did the unthinkable. In an open letter on his Tumblr page Frank Ocean came out of the closet and revealed the details about his first love which happened to be for another man. “4 summers ago, I met somebody,” he wrote. “I was 19 years old. He was too. We spent that summer, and the summer after, together. By the time I realized I was in love, it was malignant. It was hopeless. There was no escaping, no negotiating with the feeling. No choice. It was my first love, it changed my life.”
You can read his compelling letter on his website, HERE!
Frank Ocean has truly done something brave and brazen, especially in the homophobic landscape of Hip Hop.
Best-selling author, Terrance Dean, who wrote about down low and gay celebrities in his memoir, “Hiding In Hip Hop,” has penned an open letter thanking Frank Ocean on his courage to stand up and be proud.
An open letter to Frank Ocean:
Over the course of the past few days I read on the blogs, and saw a few tweets chattering about an R&B artist coming out. Your name surfaced, along with an interview you did overseas, and then you wrote on Tumblr about a relationship you had four years ago with a young man. You shared how it changed your life, and how that young man was your first love.
Initially, when I first heard the news about an R&B artist coming out I wasn’t moved. I actually thought it was a hoax created by someone. As we all know how well internet gossip fuels outings, pre-mature deaths, and other lies about celebrities. So, I dismissed it. I was waiting for you, or your publicist, to issue their pre-made ready-to-go written statement For Artists Who Are Considered Gay When The Rainbow Is Not Enuff: “I am not gay. I am a heterosexual man, and I love women.” However, that didn’t happen. You actually responded to your legion of fans, and the world, by announcing your love and declaration affirming yourself in a new era Hip Hop world that is drifting toward a new normal that is no longer filled with the hetero masculine machismo that despises homosexuality.
You can read the entire letter, HERE:
Wednesday, July 4, 2012
I need help. I met this guy maybe a two and a half years ago and fell deeply for him.
We did everything together, and everything was going great until we broke up some time last year after I found out about him still seeing his baby mama. Now, from the beginning I knew of her and their past, and I had no problem with being second to his children. But, I refuse to be second to some woman, so I left. But, now after some time apart, I still think of him almost every day and I’m still madly in love with him. I tried my best to avoid any contact with him because he hurt me. But, after some time apart I began to date a new guy and I’m not happy and want out, however, I found out that I’m currently pregnant. Now, here is where my problems come in, my ex keeps popping up in my life and I kind of wanna see if now we can make things work. What should I do? Confused Heart
You can read my response, HERE: