It's Friday - "Straight, From Your Gay Best Friend" Advice Day - Check It Out...

Make sure to check out this week's advice column over at http://www.hellobeautiful.com/

I have two letters and the subject is: He's Not Gay, He Has Gay Tendencies

Check it out:

Dear Gay Best Friend,
I have a problem I just can’t figure out. I am from a small country town and have always been the type that likes city guys. I like everything about them – their swag, the way they dress, and the way they carry themselves.
One day I was in the Dollar General Store and met this guy, “Carl,” from Washington, DC. Carl told me he was in town because he’d been working on a building for two years. We exchanged numbers and two weeks later Carl calls, and was telling me about himself. He said he’s a big Kanye West fan, very into fashion, and a big football fan.

Carl asked if we could chill one night and I said yeah. When I got to his house we started talking and he told me that everyone he comes across thinks he’s gay. My eyes got really big. I asked, “Why do they think you’re gay?” He said, “It’s because I’m well-groomed. I take care of my body. I like to dress nice and I like clean things.” I said, “Ok.” He then asked, “Is that gonna be a problem?” I said, “No.”
That same night he told me he hadn’t had sex since October and it was June. We had sex and he hits it from the back. I remember hearing that “Down Low” dudes like hitting it from the back and nothing else. About a month or two later he met my cousin and as soon as she laid eyes on him she said he’s gay, without even talking to him first. So when he left my cousin asked, “Is he gay?” I said, “No.”

I really like him and he’s very nice. So talk to me is he gay? -“Small Town Confusion”

Check out my response to this letter here:
http://hellobeautiful.com/your-man/terrancedean/hes-not-gay-he-has-gay-tendencies/

Also, this week there are two letters. The second one will really make you say, hmmmm!

Thanks for all the support and love.

Tell all your friends about, "Straight, From Your Gay Best Friend," at Hello Beautiful.

Stay blessed,

Terrance

Today is - “He Can Get It” Wednesdays: David

Hey Ladies and Gentlemen!

You know what today is? “He Can Get It” Wednesday!

The models for “He Can Get It” are everyday guys who you see on the street, grocery store, mall, gym, or in the case above, he’s your cable man.

The above model is 26-year-old David Pacheco. A sexy Venezuelan from Queens, New York, David is a cable man. Wouldn’t you love it if he shows up at your door looking to install cable in your home? I can hear you now, “Uhm, excuse me Mr. Cable-Man, I need an additional installation in my bedroom.”

You can see more of David here:
http://hellobeautiful.com/your-man/terrancedean/he-can-get-it-wednesdays-david/

And, don’t forget to check back in on Friday for my advice column, “Straight, From Your Gay Best Friend.”

http://www.hellobeautiful.com/
This week is another two-for and it’s another doozy: “He’s Not Gay, But He Has Gay Tendencies.”

It's Friday - "Straight, From Your Gay Best Friend" Advice Day - Check It Out...

YOU WANT TO PUT IT WHERE!?!

Awww, shucks. I got a doozy for you. Actually, I got a two-for on the subject of Anal Sex. Yup, there are two questions about the same topic, but from a different perspective. So, check them out below. Also, I want to thank you all for the response and comments on my debut last week. I really appreciate it. So, consider every Friday as, “Straight, From Your Gay Best Friend” Advice Day. If you sent in a question, do know that I have it and will answer it in the upcoming weeks. Also, please continue to send your questions on everything from love, relationships, career, family, or whatever you need answers to.

Now, let’s begin.

Dear Gay Best Friend,

If a man, who claims to be heterosexual, enjoys anal penetration of fingers and hands, could this be an indication that he might be Bi-sexual and not aware of it, or not wanting to admit it? If a man will take a finger or vibrator up his butt, will he also take a penis?

Thanks! – “Do I Put It In Him?”

Click here for my response:

http://hellobeautiful.com/your-man/terrancedean/you-want-to-put-it-where/

Check Out My Newest Column "He Can Get It Wednesdays" At HelloBeautiful...

First, I want to say I am extremely happy and excited to be a part of the HelloBeautiful Family. You all have embraced me with warm open arms and I thank each and every one of you. My introduction on last Friday was beyond my wildest dreams. Thousands of you went to my advice column, read the piece, and shared your comments. Thank you. For those of you who just perused the piece and shared it with your friends, I also thank you.

Now, I am introducing something I know you ladies, and some of you men, will enjoy. Every Wednesday I will be posting a photo of a sexy hot hunky male that will make you say, “He Can Get It.” So, page mark it on your web browser, put it on your calendars, set your phones, hell, whatever you got to do, make sure you tune every week for, “He Can Get It Wednesdays.”

The above photo is of male model, Rubin. He’s 27 years old. Born in Georgia, and now lives in New York City. He loves thick, shapely women with a sense of humor. You can see more of Rubin at http://www.hellobeautiful.com/

Also, make sure to tune in Friday, and every Friday thereafter, for my advice column, “Straight, From Your Gay Best Friend.” Make sure you check me out this Friday. I have a two-for, and you won’t believe what’s it’s about – Anal Sex.

Thank you all again and enjoy, “He Can Get It Wednesday.”

Terrance

P.S. – If you are interested in Rubin’s calendar, you can purchase his calendar here:
http://www.leestudiosnyc.com/merchand_poster.html

I Am Proud To Announce That I Have Joined Interactive One/HelloBeautiful.com As Their New Advice Columnist...

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Author Terrance Dean Gives it to Us
"Straight, From Your Gay Best Friend"
In New Column on Interactive One's HelloBeautiful.com

New York - When ESSENCE Magazine best-selling author Terrance Dean speaks, everyone listens! Perhaps his explosive memoir, Hiding In Hip Hop: On the Down Low in the Entertainment Industry - from Music to Hollywood (Atria/ Simon and Schuster May 2008) had something to do with it. Terrance tore the lid off the down low culture within the testosterone-driven world of Hip Hop, when he revealed a new dimension in a world notorious for its larger-than-life masculine swagger. Bravely unmasking the deep secrets of a prominent gay sub-culture within not only the entertainment community, but within the confines of Hip Hop, Hiding in Hip Hop became the runaway, most talked about, most Googled book sensation of the year.

Well Terrance Dean is back! Friday, February 12, 2010 will mark his debut as a contributing columnist/blogger on the Black Planet site "Hello Beautiful" at www.HelloBeautiful.com with a regular feature entitled, "Straight, From Your Gay Best Friend," also the title of his new highly anticipated advice book due out later this year from Agate/Bolden Books.

Via "Straight, From Your Gay Best Friend" Terrance will give advice served with a mix of sass, wit, and humor to the thousands of women who write in seeking answers to everything from love, relationships, career, and family. The column will also enlist real-life personal stories, entertainment news, contests, and a sexy man of the week pictorial.

"From 'Will and Grace' to 'Sex in the City' to the 'Real Housewives of Atlanta' it is commonly known and accepted that a girl's real best friend is a gay man. Well for those not lucky enough to know one personally, here I am! I will be the one to tell it to the ladies straight, no chaser, about life, love, relationships, and everything in between. I am so grateful to Hello Beautiful.com for having the vision to provide me and their readers with this wonderful opportunity," shares Dean.

Always writing, Dean's Straight, From Your Gay Best Friend - Who Else Is Going To Tell You The Truth About Work, Relationships, and Having a Fabulous Life! will be released with Agate/Bolden Books in October 2010. In addition, Dean conceived the idea and concept for a tribute book, Visible Lives: Three Stories in Tribute to E. Lynn Harris, for his dear friend and mentor, New York Times best-selling author, the late E. Lynn Harris. Visible Lives is being released with Kensington/Dafina Books in May 2010. It is an anthology in which Dean enlisted fellow authors Stanley Bennett Clay and James Earl Hardy to write novellas in tribute to E. Lynn Harris who died in July 2009. "I wanted to create a project that honored and paid homage to one of the greatest black gay fiction writers of our time," said Dean.

Author, speaker, educator and now advice columnist, Detroit native, Terrance Dean continues to make waves as an advocate for change and empowerment. Having come to terms with himself in a homophobic culture he has positioned himself as a vanguard in hip hop, always pushing the envelope.

Dean has worked in the entertainment industry for over 15 years with heavy hitters such as Spike Lee, Rob Reiner, Keenan Ivory Wayans, and Anjelica Houston.

Dean also worked with MTV Networks helping to produce live award shows and events including MTV Video Music Awards, Movie Awards, Hip Hop Honors, Rock Honors, Sports & Music Festival, and Choose or Lose. He is the founder/creator of Men's Empowerment, Inc. and co-creator of The Gathering of Men with Adeyemi Bandele, husband and spiritual partner of Iyanla Vanzant. He is also the author of Reclaim Your Power! A 30-Day Guide to Hope, Healing and Inspiration for Men of Color (Random House/Villard - May 2003).

"There needs to be a continuum of open dialogue within the Black community, particularly within the Hip-Hop community. I am here. Let it begin with me," expresses Dean. "Straight, From Your Gay Best Friend" on the Hello Beautiful portal will be a wonderful extension of a much needed conversation."

Hello Beautiful.com (http://www.hellobeautiful.com) is one of Interactive One's suite of sites targeting the African American audience.

HelloBeautiful.com is a fun mix of fashion, beauty, entertainment and relationship talk carefully curated for the new urban
woman.

Check the column at http://hellobeautiful.com/author/terrancedean/
and send your your queries for the column to Terrance Dean at girlworkonyou@aol.com.

NOTE TO MEDIA:
Terrane Dean is available for interviews, contact jazzmynepr@gmail.com.

R. Kelly Wants To Release 15 More Chapters of Trapped In The Closet...

This should be interesting. What do you all think?

The National Black Writers’ Conference Presents A Pre-Conference Celebration of E. Lynn Harris...

Mark Your Calendars for Saturday, March 6, 2010

If you are in the New York area please join us as Writers and Friends of E. Lynn Harris join together to celebrate his works and life. New York Times best-selling author, E. Lynn Harris, left a distinguished mark in the literary world before his passing on July 23, 2009. Authors and friends include: Terrance Dean, Victoria Christopher Murray, Karen E. Quinones Miller, Karen Hunter, Donna Hill, Erika Kendrick, Stanley Bennett Clay, James Earl Hardy, and many more. Free and open to the public.

Date: Saturday, March 6, 2010
Location: Brooklyn Public Library at Grand Army Plaza, Tel (718) 230-2100
Time: 4:00 pm to 6:00 pm
Admission: FREE
Audience: Open to all.
Co- Sponsored by the Brooklyn Public Library at Grand Army Plaza

www.brooklynpubliclibrary.org

This event is part of the Black Writers Conference taking place at Medgar Evers College in Brooklyn.

www.nationalblackwritersconference.org

Comment Section Is Open...

For many of you who follow my blog, I am forever and truly grateful! I cannot thank you enough. For the past two years I have closed the comment section because of inconsiderate and obnoxious persons who posted deragatory comments in the past. I've decided to open them up once again for those who wish to share their comments and have a mature dialogue with one another.

I do appreciate hearing from all of you. Please do not abuse or curse in the comments section when you leave a message. It's okay to disagree with someone. It's healthly dialogue and may help someone to see an opposing view in a different light.

So, please keep stopping by. Please share your comments and tell all your friends to stop by.

Thank you!

Terrance Dean