Wednesday, June 20, 2012
Today Is, "Straight From Your Gay Best Friend" Advice Day With Bossip...
Ok, I know you get tons of e-mails from people like me all the time, but I’m in serious despair.
Plus, I will continue to e-mail you till you respond. LOL!
Ok, so I’ve been seeing this guy for about a month now. He is awesome. We have a lot in common. He’s goal-orientated. He is already pretty set in his career. He’s actually the only producer I know actually producing and getting paid for it in advance, and he plays in a band and actually gets paid for it. We have great conversations and he is very consistent. He does exactly what he says he is going to do. We go out and we hang. And, on Sundays he takes my children and I out. He wants to be a part of our lives and is interested in being in a relationship with me and building a future with us. We get along great. We goof off and I can talk to him about anything with no judgments imposed.
But, the bad thing is that he isn’t what I’m looking for when it comes to looks. He is overweight, but that doesn’t bother me. He is sloppy with his dressing and that does bother me. But, he treats me and my children like freaking royalty. He is always making sure I’m ok before he makes any plans that might interrupt my plans. For example, I’m car-less right now and he lets me use his car for errands and such.
In some ways I feel like I’m being shallow because he really is a good man. I just don’t want to get caught up in what he can do for me and what he does do for me, or his income. I really want to get to know him as a person. Sometimes I just feel like I’m settling because I’m just not 100% attracted to him. I gave him a chance because I was keeping an open mind and honestly didn’t expect for it to go this far. He is very needy. He wants attention a lot, and he kisses a lot.
I’ve always wanted a guy like this, but maybe it’s him. Ugh! I feel like I’m settling, but he isn’t. I don’t mean to toot my horn, but toot toot. I’m an attractive female with a very good shape. I workout everyday and I have a lot going on for myself. I feel like I have a good leveled head on my shoulders, so I think he’s winning right now. He’s even mentioned that he feels weird because he is talking to a girl like me and he feels bad. He has even been going to the gym everyday for a week now and keeping up with his grooming. Basically, what I wanna know is if I’m just being a shallow person, or if I should consider weighing out my options.
I have never met a guy like him and to be honest I’m 25-years old with 2 little girls and most guys just wanna be with me because of my looks and just wanna have sex (good looking guys). And, the ugly guys are just happy to be with a good-looking girl like me (their words). I’m just confused. I think he is awesome, but I’m honestly hoping I can find a guy just like him, but more attractive. Please help! I need an unbiased opinion. I have dated losers in the past and I want my girls to have a father figure, but I don’t want to settle help! – Little Ms. Shallow
You can read my response, HERE: