TERRANCE DEAN: Today is, "Straight From Your Gay Best Friend" Advice Day With Bossip...

Thursday, March 22, 2012

Today is, "Straight From Your Gay Best Friend" Advice Day With Bossip...

Dear Bossip,

I have not been in a serious relationship for the past 4 years.

Well, my best friend, who is a male, I tell him everything, including the people that I have had sexual relationships with. I started to develop feelings for one of the guys that I am currently in a sexual
relationship with. I told my best friend about him, and now me and the guy are dating.

Three weeks into us dating I had a conversation with my best friend telling him how good things are going with my the guy I’m dating, and then my best friend drops this bombshell on me saying that he is in love with me. I have no clue where to go from here because I do not have feelings for my best friend at all. I do not know how to express this to him without hurting his feeling. I am really feeling the guy that I am dating, and he said that I have to stop being friends with him because of how he feels. I do not want to lose my best friend, but I do not want to lose this guy either. What should I do? – Confused Lover

You can read my response, HERE:
http://bossip.com/560765/dear-bossip-my-best-friend-told-me-that-he-is-in-love-with-me-but-i-dont-feel-the-same-way/#.T2tPrveeSKQ.facebook

2 comments:

karensmith said...: Just follow your heart and everything will go well. :)

college dating; May 17, 2012 at 11:18 AM
african woman said...: What a very tough situation you're dealing with.

Are you familiar with this phrase?"Friends can be LOVERS but LOVERS can't be friends" so based from this one you can replace your boyfriend but you can never replace your bestfriend.
Well, if what your heart truly says then follow it. If you will choose your boyfriend I'm sure your bestfriend will understand and respect your decision because a true friend is willing to sacrifice his own happiness for others sake.; July 17, 2012 at 12:37 AM

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REVIEWS FOR "STRAIGHT FROM YOUR GAY BEST FRIEND"...

AOL Black Voices: “Dean doles out sage and sassy advice for women on some of life's most challenging issues, including when to leave a relationship, how to stay in the dating game and how to realize that you may not be that into him. 'Straight From Your Gay Best Friend' is a must read for any woman looking for a different perspective on love, life and spirituality.”

Sister2Sister Magazine: “Terrance Dean is distributing sound advice for women searching for themselves in Straight From Your Gay Best Friend. But like any good GBF he wants to help as many people as possible, and his book is the next best thing to a private session over cocktails. Trust us, the book (and the wisdom inside) is well worth the money.”

Huffington Post: “I do, however, appreciate most of Dean's simple, down-to-earth nuggets of wisdom, often delivered with a bit of spirituality. It is this type of straight-ahead, common sense advice that reflects the book's best moments.”

REVIEWS FOR "HIDING IN HIP HOP"....

Newsweek: "In a new memoir, a former MTV staffer dishes on the rap industry's persistent "down-low" culture. He doesn't name names, but it's a fascinating peek inside hip-hop's last taboo."

New York Magazine: "After all those shirtless rappers with their antigay lyrics, not to mention the ambiguous ones for R. Kelly’s “Trapped in the Closet,” someone has written the inevitable gay-hip-hop exposé."

VIBE Magazine: "Though Dean does not name names, he has found the strength to be his true self and reveal his own struggles as a down low man in the entertainment industry."

The Observer UK: "If homophobic rappers are looking for a dubious sense of 'authenticity', then they can just as easily find it in Dean's background as in the most masculine of gangsta rappers."

Essence Magazine: "...his descriptive, page-turning exposé about his closeted same-sex romances with Hollywood and Hip-Hop's leading Black men will be a rude awakening for many and healing for others."

GBM News: "His story is more than who's living life in or out of the closet...you will marvel at his accomplishments and will agree that he is an asset not just to the gay black community but to mankind, as there's nothing stronger than the human-spirit."

NOW Magazine Toronto: "Terrance Dean pours his soul out as he details the dimensions of African-American and -Canadian gay male oppression. Many will relate to his inner turmoil, and particularly the way family and church fail to offer safe havens. Dean laments that the world is not yet ready to face the truth about black gay/lesbian celebrities’ sexuality. With this book, however, he definitely sparks the much-needed conversation about gays inside the hip-hop nation."

AOL Black Voices: "Dean raises an important question regarding acceptance of homosexuality in the black community. And in Hiding in Hip Hop, he provides some context for his life by discussing his tumultuous upbringing."

The Michigan Front Page: "This book was a real page turner that stimulated the thirst for a deeper understanding of the plight that many homosexual individuals deal with in living with their sexuality that is often shrouded in a world of secrecy."