Saturday, May 28, 2011

What The Bloggers Are Saying About, "MOGUL" - The Music Industry Secret Gay Scrolls Decoded

Blogger Jacky Jasper of "Diary Of A Hollywood Street King," Is Speculating About My Upcoming Book, "MOGUL."

 

MOGUL is a work of fiction. 

 

This is from the gossip blogger, Hollywood Street King: 

 

HSK Wants To Test Your Trivia Skills as Industry Insider Reveals Hip Hop’s Gay Secrets…


As HSK continues to decipher the real life industry players in what has quickly earned the title of being hip hop’s secret gay scrolls, we want to test your skills (no pun intended).

Last week, HSK was the first to tell you about Terrance Dean’s “Mogul” – a very detailed layout recounting one artist’s (Big A.T.) journey as he struggles to land his dreams of making it big in the music business. The widely anticipated book, set to be officially released June 14th, is expected to shatter hip hop’s long kept secret of deeds which need to be met in order for some to land top hip hop success. Mogul’s characters have fictional names, so the reader is left to decide which character parallels the industry’s real life players.

 

HSK has determined with precision: 

 

You can read further, HERE:
http://diaryofahollywoodstreetking.com/music-industry-gay-scrolls-decoded-mogul/

Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Atlanta - Booksigning and Panel Discussion at Outwrite Bookstore June 29th - "Young, Black, Gifted and Gay...Powerful Men in the Entertainment Industry"



Terrance Dean signs new book MOGUL and leads panel discussion at Outwrite June 29
  
“Young, Black, Gifted, and Gay… Powerful Men in the Entertainment Industry
and Our Allies in Partnership”

Motivational speaker, entertainment industry insider, and best selling author of Hiding in Hip Hop, TERRANCE DEAN comes to Outwrite to sign copies of his new novel MOGUL and to lead a panel discussion with well-known personalities in the Atlanta entertainment scene. Entitled “Young, Black, Gifted, and Gay... Powerful Men In The Entertainment Industry and Our Allies In Partnership,” the discussion is presented in association with Atria Books.

Confirmed panelists include:
• DRAMA DUPREE – Blogger and co-host of “Better Days Radio”
• MICHELLE BROWN – StraightFromTheA.com
• ADRIAN J. DANIEL (a.k.a. Sir Daniel) – Co-host of “Better Days Radio” and former board
operator/show producer, WVEE/WAOK
• GEORGE H. SMITH, J.D. – Creator of Black gay reality television show, “Tha Life Atlanta”
• LONNELL WILLIAMS - Host/owner, 3LWTV
• LT DINWIDDIE (Gyant) – Gyantunplugged/BET/Comcast
  on Demand
• MAURICE JAMAL – Founder/President GLO TV, Filmmaker (Dirty Laundry, Ski Trip, Friends & Lovers)

According to moderator for the evening TERRANCE DEAN, this panel discussion will serve as a progressive dialogue for the LGBT and Black community as a whole. In his new book, MOGUL, the central character is Hip Hop music producer Big A.T., a down-low man who is struggling with his sexuality, his desire to come out, and the repercussions of his decision, as well as the family of down-low men in the entertainment industry.

Dean is a contributor to the collection Visible Lives: Three Stories in Tribute to E. Lynn Harris, and is the author of several books including Reclaim Your Power!, Hiding In Hip Hop, Straight From Your Gay Best Friend, and his recently published debut novel MOGUL.

Outwrite Bookstore & Coffeehouse is located at 991 PIEDMONT AVE., at the corner of Tenth St. in Midtown Atlanta,             404-607-0082      • FAX (404) 607-0092 • EMAIL info@outwritebooks.com

Monday, May 23, 2011

Author Terrance Dean Prepares To Set The Industry On Fire With New Book Release - MOGUL: A Novel

Author Terrance Dean Prepares to
Set the Industry On Fire
With New Book Release
MOGUL: A Novel
Fictional Release,  MOGUL, Goes Inside Hip Hop and
Uncovers the Secret Life of a Music Superstar
MOGUL by Terrance Dean 
New York - On April 4th, music producer and popular New York DJ personality Mister Cee was arrested for sexual lewd acts with a man.  On April 17th, "straight" rapper Lil B sent the Hip Hop world into a frenzy when he announced plans to title his upcoming album, "I'm Gay."  Then on May 15th, CNN's beloved news anchor, Don Lemon 'came out' and went public revealing he's gay.  But on June 14th, when entertainment industry insider and best-selling author Terrance Dean releases his anxiously anticipated debut novel MOGUL (Atria Books Original Paperback - June 2011; $15) these revelations will all make sense.
Though fictional, MOGUL goes deep inside Hip Hop to reveal just how rampant homosexuality reigns in an industry that on the surface purports hyper-masculinity as its calling card. MOGUL follows Aaron "Big A.T." Tremble, a young music icon, as he juggles money, fame, women and running a record label, while indulging in a clandestine relationship with his hot superstar artist, the sexy hunk, Tickman. MOGUL gives readers the inner behind-the-scenes moves of a community of down low and gay industry companions, known as 'the family,' who support and propel Big A.T. as Hip Hop's most beloved producer.    

MOGUL is the explosive factor that ties together the recent rash of real life homosexual media reveals.  Society is not as 'straight' as it seems!

Terrance Dean
Terrance Dean
A rollercoaster read MOGUL will incite speculation as Dean paints a true-to-life portrait of the entertainment business and its many personalities.  His larger-than-life characters hint at real life celebrities.  The drama reads like the events of today's fast paced headlines.  And the sex sizzles off the pages.  Dean's debut fiction release centers him as a novelist grounded in the game.  Interestingly, amid the excitement, passion and suspense, Dean writes with truth and sincerity that evokes compassion for his characters.  He keeps the reader entertained, while at the same time dispelling the many misaligned preconceptions about what one thinks they know about not only the entertainment business, but the world of men who love men.
Dean's Hiding In Hip Hop: On the Down Low in the Entertainment Industry from Music to Hollywood(Atria Books - May 2008) tore the lid off the down low culture within the testosterone-driven world of Hip Hop.  Uncovering a secret dimension in a world notorious for its larger-than-life masculine swagger, Dean bravely unmasked elements of a prominent gay sub-culture within the confines of Hip Hop.  The book was a memoir which freed the author as he came to terms with his own sexuality. 
Dean has since solidified his stance as a no-holds-barred gay author.  His book, Straight, From Your Gay Best Friend - The Straight Up Truth About Work, Relationships, and Having a Fabulous Life!  (Agate Bolden Books - October 2010), and advice column with the same name at www.HelloBeautiful.com, have since endeared him to an audience that recognizes he keeps it real at all costs.  On the surface, it may seem sensationalistic, but his pure intentions for self-liberation, self-love, and self-worth are always right beneath the surface.  In fact, his first book, Reclaim Your Power! A 30-Day Guide to Hope, Healing and Inspiration for Men of Color(Random House/Villard - May 2003) laid the foundation for the journey Terrance Dean finds himself traveling with his work. His third book. Visible Lives: Three Stories in Tribute to E. Lynn Harris (Kensington/Dafina Books - May 2010) for his dear friend and mentor, New York Times best-selling celebrated gay author, the late E. Lynn Harris, further showcased his commitment and stance as a writer dedicated to a community that will continue to be heard and acknowledged.
"'MOGUL' is a story that I've wanted to tell for a long time, and I'm happy it's finally being told. There are many gay men and women in the entertainment industry who silently work behind the scenes without recognition. As someone who has worked in the entertainment industry for over a decade, I feel people have a misconstrued and delusional idea of what celebrities lives are like, and what the industry is like," reveals Dean.   

"I want to invite readers into this world of power, seduction, and fame showing at what costs, and length, a person will go to rise to the top. Besides, I also feel it's important we start a serious conversation and dialogue about homophobia in Hip Hop, and within the Black community. We've done so much when it comes to repealing, 'Don't Ask, Don't Tell,' in the military. I feel it's time to repeal the same within the entertainment industry, particularly amongst Black celebrities who are afraid to come out for fear of backlash," adds Dean. "Its no longer about 'hiding in hip hop.' Its time to bring it all out."

Terrance Dean is hosting two forums in support of the release of MOGUL.  The panels, "Young, Black, Gifted and Gay...Powerful Men In The Entertainment Industry," will be in New York on Tuesday, June 14 at the Center For Fiction, 17 East 47th Street, from 6:30 p.m. to 8:30 p.m.; and in Atlanta on Thursday, June 29 at Outwrite Bookstore, 991 Piedmont Avenue, Northeast, from 7:00 p.m. to 8:30 p.m.   

MOGUL: A Novel is currently available for pre-order online, and in bookstores everywhere on June 14.   Keep up with Terrance Dean at www.mrterrancedean.com; www.terrancedean.blogspot.com; and on Twitter: @terrancedean. 

Pre-order my new novel, MOGUL, here: 

Friday, May 20, 2011

MOGUL - Book Tour Schedule - NYC; Philly; Baltimore; Atlanta; Detroit; Chicago; New Orleans; Houston; Nashville; Boston



This is the book tour schedule for MOGUL.

I hope you all will come out and tell all your friends. Hell, bring them with you, and your momma, aunts, uncles, cousins, brothers, sisters, and the whole neighborhood. Bring your sorors, frat (Alpha Phi Alpha, Fraternity, Inc. stand up!)

I can't wait to see all of you, shake your hands, give some hugs, go out to eat, and have a big ole' laugh.

I love y'all!!

And, the book is available for pre-order! So, order yours today:
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1451611927/ref=aalbccom-20

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June 10th – 12th
Panel Discussion/Signing
25th Annual Conference - 100 Black Men of America, Inc.
San Francisco Marriott Marquis Hotel
San Francisco, CA
Saturday – June 11th - Hip Hop Industry and Media Panel
11a – 1p
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Tuesday - June 14th
Panel Discussion/Booksigning
Center for Fiction
17 East 47th Street
New York, NY
6:30p – 8:30p

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Wednesday - June 15th
Booksigning/Reading
Barnes & Noble Bookstore
1805 Walnut Street
Philadelphia, PA
6p – 8p

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Thursday - June 16th
Booksigning/Reading
Bridgeport Library - Black Rock Branch
2705 Fairfield Avenue
Bridgeport ,CT
5p – 8p

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Saturday - June 18th
Book Club Party/Reading/Signing
1932 Elston Street
Philadelphia, PA 19138
6pm
Contact: Illya 215-253-8774 begin_of_the_skype_highlighting            215-253-8774      end_of_the_skype_highlighting
  
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Wednesday - June 22nd
Official Book Party Release
Nectar Wine Bar
2235 Frederick Douglass Boulevard @ 121st Street
New York, NY
6p – 9p
Music by: DJ Fred Pierce
Give-aways and prizes!

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Thursday - June 23rd
Booksigning/Reading
KICK - LGBT
41 Burroughs Street
Detroit, MI
6p – 8p

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Friday - June 24th
Booksigning/Reading
Barnes & Noble
3120 Fairlane Drive
Allen Park, MI
7p – 9p

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Saturday - June 25th
Booksigning/Reading
Gerber Hart Library
1127 West Granville Avenue
Chicago, IL
3p – 5p

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Monday - June 27th
Booksigning/Reading
Barnes & Noble
1701 Mallory Lane
Brentwood, TN
7p – 9p

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Wednesday - June 29th
Panel Discussion/Booksigning
Outwrite Bookstore
991 Piedmont Avenue, Northeast
Atlanta, GA
7p – 8:30p

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Friday - July 1st
Panel Discussion/Signing
Bayou Soul Writer’s Conference
New Orleans, LA

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Thursday - July 7th
Booksigning/Reading
Barnes & Noble
7626 Westheimer
Houston, TX
7p – 9p

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Friday - July 15th
Booksigning/Reading
Urban Knowledge Bookstore
Mondawmin Mall
Baltimore, MD
5p – 7p

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Saturday - July 16th
Booksigning/Reading
Urban Knowledge Bookstore
East Point Mall
Baltimore, MD
5p – 7p

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Saturday - July 23rd
Booksigning/Reading
Hispanic Black Gay Coalition of Boston
Boston, MA
4p – 7p

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July 29th – 31st
National Book Club Conference
Panel discussion & Booksigning
Atlanta, GA

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August 3rd – 7th
National Association of Black Journalist
Author’s showcase
Philadelphia, PA

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Today Is, "Straight From Your Gay Best Friend" Advice Day...

Dear Gay Best Friend,

I’m happily married, it’s just that my husband doesn’t work and I provide for the home! I’ve never cheated and I never plan to.

However, my problem is that there was a most recent time when my husband was incarcerated and during that time I encountered an old friend of mine who I used to dance with, and I was reintroduced to a drug. I’d rather not say what it is, and now I’ve been secretly texting (my connect) to bring it to me behind my husband’s back! Please don’t judge me or be harsh but I love my husband and I value our marriage, but at the same time I feel like I’m in too deep and I don’t want to give it up! Please help me – Secretly Addicted

You can read my response, HERE:
http://hellobeautiful.com/sex-love/terrancedean/i-have-a-secret-addiction-my-husband-doesnt-know/

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Today Is, "Straight From Your Gay Best Friend" Advice Day...

Dear Gay Best Friend,

I met this guy and we fell in love. He is a trust fund kid and he relies on his daddy for money, and for everything! He is currently unemployed and about to open a business with his dad. He is cash strapped so of course I am not being spoiled – no dinners, etc. His dad has him on a tight leash and if he doesn’t behave accordingly he doesn’t get any money. He has a daughter which is loved by his family.

Last December they (my boyfriend and his family) went to Mauritius with the baby mama because she had to look after their 3-year old daughter. So, here I was all alone whilst the family went on holiday. Recently he woke up from my bed and went to Brazil with his baby mama. I didn’t know about the trip until he had gone.
We even don’t use condoms that’s how close we are. We are soul mates and talk about everything so I don’t understand why he did this to me. I am not going to give him up as we are meant to be together. Even the psychic said we belong together. What should I do? I know he loves me. – Baby Momma Drama 

Dear Gay Best Friend,

I have a dilemma. I hate to go out with my girlfriend because she seems to attract all the men. I get hit on too but not the men I am attracted to and not as much

My friend and I are the exact opposite. I’m a giver, I like to be submissive, and I don’t think every man is a dog or a liar. I am independent but I don’t hold that over anyone’s head. My friend on the other hand is always talking about men, calling them whores and liars (to their face). She has no respect for anyone and yet men are more attracted to her!!! I can’t understand this. When we go out she normally get the good guys, the cute guys, etc. She is very cute herself and light skinned. I’m cute as well but not as cute and I’m a darkie. I think this play a big role in it as well

I love her to death and I don’t hold this against her at all. But I can’t understand why men go for looks only
and not the personality. Help me not feel like the ugly duckling when we go out. Sincerely – 3rd Wheel


You can read my response to both letters, HERE:
http://hellobeautiful.com/sex-love/terrancedean/today-is-basic-tuesday-basic-letters-from-basic-women-3/

Monday, May 16, 2011

My New Novel, MOGUL, Dropping June 14th!

Good day everyone! 

I am so excited and thrilled to share with you all about my upcoming novel, MOGUL. This book is truly a labor of love, and it's a story I'm certain many of you will be talking about from here on out. Just as you did with my books, HIDING IN HIP HOP; VISIBLE LIVES; and STRAIGHT FROM YOUR GAY BEST FRIEND, I have been humbled by your generous support, and show of love. You don't know how it feels when I get the letters, emails, and messages on Twitter and Facebook from all of you and how you've been touched, moved, and inspired by my works.

I ask that you will continue to show your support with my debut novel, MOGUL. This is my first full-length novel, and I truly need each of you to share the information with your friends, family, co-workers, and colleagues about my book. 

I have included the book's cover art work, which is absolutely beautiful, and the press release with information about the book. The book is slated for release on June 14th and is available for pre-order currently on Amazon.com. 

This is where I'm asking if you would be so gracious as to pre-order the book. It means a lot to an author when pre-order sales are up because the publishers take notice of authors who are doing extremely well with pre-order sales. Also, entertainment entities are also paying close attention. 

So, please take a moment to read about my new novel, MOGUL, dropping June 14th. Place your pre-order and, yes, I will be touring this summer and you can purchase the book at my signings. Here is a listing of some of the cities I will be visiting. Keep in mind that if you do not see your city don't fret. The publisher generally sends authors to the cities where pre-order sales are up, as well as the author's popularity. If your city is not on the list, please shoot me an email: mensevents@aol.com and if you can get folks in your area together for a signing, I will make it a point to get to your city. 

Here is the listing: San Fran, New York, Philly, Baltimore, Hartford, Boston, Detroit, Chicago, Atlanta, New Orleans, Houston, Nashville, North Carolina (Waiting on the city).

Thank you everyone and I am looking forward to meeting all of you, and signing your books this summer!

Terrance Dean 

You can pre-order your copy on Amazon.com, HERE:
http://www.amazon.com/Mogul-Novel-Terrance-Dean/dp/1451611927/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1305581203&sr=1-1 



Entertainment industry insider and author of the Essence bestselling
 Memoir, HIDING IN HIP HOP, returns with a highly-anticipated novel that
explores the secret gay life of a hip-hop’s impresario

MOGUL: A Novel
By Terrance Dean

With the publication of Hiding in Hip-Hop, the controversial Essence bestselling expose that set the entertainment industry on its ear, Terrance Dean, who has worked in television and film for well over a decade, became the voice of African American men in Hollywood and in Hip-Hop who conduct clandestine same-sex relationships. Through revealing yet discreet anecdotes about his liaisons with the rich and famous who were also on the “DL,” Dean’s provocative and candid account brought to light a hidden gay subculture that insiders have been well aware of for years.
Now, with his debut novel, MOGUL (Atria Books Paperback Original; On-sale date: June 14, 2011; $15.00), Dean once again returns to this subject matter as he entices readers to play the guessing game about the real-life celebrities who serve as inspiration for his larger-than-life characters. In a literary style that’s E. Lynn Harris meets Zane, Dean presents a fictional page-turner about a beloved music industry genius who’s launched the careers of the hottest stars in hip-hop but also harbors a secret that could destroy his life and empire.
Aaron “Big A.T.” Tremble, an athletically gifted teenager from Brooklyn, discovers he is attracted to George, one of the most popular basketball stars at his school and soon, the two become embroiled in a secret romance as they juggle studies, gym practice and girlfriends. A year later during their senior year, George announces he is moving to California for college. While Big A.T. is heartbroken, he pours himself into his music to forget George and begins producing for local rappers in his neighborhood. After a chance meeting with the retired kingpin of hip-hop, Larry “Pop” Singleton, Big A.T.’s life is forever changed as he becomes Pop’s protégé and a member of the “family”—a network of secretly gay men in the industry who will eventually become instrumental in helping him launch his own music label. Attracting the biggest names in the industry, Big A.T. has the Midas touch with millions of dollars in the bank, real estate holdings, luxury cars, and countless fans. He’s built a bona fide empire but along the way, Big A.T. falls hard for one of his artists, the sexy Tickman. They love each other but know they must keep their relationship a secret and to keep any press speculation about their sexuality at bay, each becomes involved in relationships with high-profile women. However, unbeknownst to Big A.T., a journalist seeking revenge against hip-hop power brokers and looking for his 15 minutes of fame obtains compromising photographs that threaten to expose the truth about Big A. T.  Will his life crumble in the wake of a huge scandal or will Big A.T. survive—and out of the closet forever?    

Terrance Dean has worked in the entertainment industry for over 15 years with heavy hitters such as Spike Lee, Rob Reiner, Keenan Ivory Wayans, and Anjelica Houston. He has worked with television and film production companies such as BET, Savoy Television, Paramount Pictures, Warner Bros. Pictures, and Sony Pictures. Most recently, Dean worked with MTV Networks for over six years helping to produce live award shows and events including MTV Video Music Awards, Movie Awards, Hip Hop Honors, Rock Honors, Sports & Music Festival, and Choose or Lose. Dean is also the founder/creator of Men’s Empowerment, Inc. and co-creator of The Gathering of Men with Adeyemi Bandele. He attended Fisk University and graduated with a bachelor’s degree in Communications. Dean is a 2005 John Seigenthaler Journalism Fellow from Vanderbilt University and served as a writer-in-residence with the Detroit Public School system. He is a contributor to the anthologies Souls of My Brothers and Gone Too Soon and his writings have appeared in publications such as Vibe, Essence, Juicy, The Advocate and Fatherhood Today. 

Friday, May 13, 2011

Today Is, "Straight From Your Gay Best Friend" Advice Day...

Dear Gay Best Friend,

I’m married with 4 kids. The oldest is 13 and the youngest is 1 years old. And, I’m so stressed out. My husband doesn’t work. I hustle. I used to dance but I quit because I fell in love. I’m not cheating nor have I ever cheated. But, I’ve been secretly texting my old connect and have been sniffing behind my husband back what do I do? – Sniff Or Stay

You can read my response, HERE:
http://hellobeautiful.com/sex-love/terrancedean/i-was-a-stripper-who-fell-in-love-got-married-but-im-texting-an-ex/ 

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

Today Is, "Straight From Your Gay Best Friend" Advice Day...

Dear Gay Best Friend,

I’m a 21 year old female and I been seeing a guy for over a year but the thing is he is 37 years old. Our relationship is great besides the fact my parents aren’t thrilled about the age difference. We have a lot in common and I found myself being truly in love with this guy but the thing is I’m still in school and he has finished school and is quite accomplished in life and is looking into wanting to settle down with me and have kids but I want to finish school and get my career started before I do that. I want to know how do I tell him I love him but I can’t marry him right now and also deal with the fact that the man I love isn’t fancied by my parents. – Age Ain’t Nothing But A Number 


Dear Gay Best Friend,

Does the silent treatment work on men? I have never given my boyfriend the silent treatment but he complains about everything says I talk/nag to much so I have shut the f*** up for 1.5 days. Its KILLING me to not nag at him but I was told by a male colleague not to do that just shut up for a couple of days and he will cave in. Reason we had the tiff was he complained about me packing his lunch and making dinner, his exact words were, “if you want to win me over you don’t have to cook.”  My response was I didn’t know I had to win you over I thought we were past that stage since we live together. So I have given the cold shoulder 1.5 days and I’m DYING to talk a little crap. – Silent Treatment

Dear Gay Best  Friend,

I saw a response to you about a girl whose ex had sex with a Transsexual and watched Transsexual porn. My question may seem similar to you however it seems a little different to me because my man has never been with a Transsexual or man of any sort however. I have come to find out and he has since discussed with me that he is in fact interested in Transsexual porn. This bothers me very much because while I am ok with people being gay…my best male friends is….I’m not ok with my man being bi/gay. He swears he’s not into regular men that and they turn him off but than an extremely attractive Transsexual is appealing to him. He also claims that together or nor he’d never actually be with a Transsexual, that he couldn’t bring himself to so and says that he’s totally straight.  I don’t get how that could be because these girls clearly have a penis. Please help me. I feel like I have no one I can talk to! I need to  know what’s his orientation? – What Is He? 


You can read my response to all 3 women, HERE:
http://hellobeautiful.com/sex-love/terrancedean/today-is-basic-tuesday-basic-letters-from-basic-women-2/

Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Today Is, "Straight From Your Gay Best Friend" Advice Day...

Dear Gay Best Friend,

I just have a question. I’ve been married to my husband for 17 years. I recently filed for divorce but now I’m having second thoughts. Let me tell you about this situation.

I met my husband through a mutual friend when I was 19 years old. I already had a son who was 1 year old at the time. His father passed away almost 1 year later. My husband is a good person but he wasn’t a provider for us. He got on drugs within 3 years of us being together. I was young back then and didn’t have a lot of firsthand experience with drug users.

So, he went to a lot of treatment places. I stuck by him every time he went. I was always thinking he loved me and he would stay clean – well, he didn’t stay clean for long. He’s been in and out of rehab centers and, of course, detox.  He’s broken into my apartment and stole my things, has taken money out of my bank by stealing my ATM card. When I confronted him at first he lied but then he later confessed. So I finally had enough. I sent him home to his family out of state to hopefully get him back on track. He was clean for 6 months, and I was stressed wondering what he was doing down there. Well, he came back and everything was fine for 2 weeks, then he started using again. Once again I talked to him and he said he was going to get clean, but he continued to use. So, once again I sent him out of state.

Now, he’s been gone now for almost 9 months. I got a call from a woman a few days ago saying they have been seeing each other for the last 5 months but he never told me anything about this woman until I confronted him on the phone. Of course he said he was sorry and should have told me but he said it wasn’t serious. Although the woman is married herself, she said she’s going to leave her husband for mine.

My question is should I try to keep this marriage or let it go? And also should I cut off communication with him?  He said the reason why he didn’t tell me was because he knew I would’ve said don’t call me anymore. Which is what I said when he confessed.  I’m lost for words. Should I just move on and forget about him or should I try to make this 17-year marriage work? – I Miss My Husband

You can read my response, HERE:
http://hellobeautiful.com/sex-love/terrancedean/should-i-fight-for-my-marriage-despite-my-husbands-14-year-drug-abuse/

Monday, May 9, 2011

Today Is, "Straight From Your Gay Best Friend" Advice Day...

Dear Gay Best Friend,

Ok, so let me break this down. I am a recently single 23 year old white female. I have two kids and I just started dating and going out again. All of the guys I meet are not what I’m looking for. So two months ago I went out with some girlfriends and I met someone at a club (black guy 27 y/o) who I thought was cute and we exchanged numbers.

Well, when I got home that night we talked on the phone and I found out he was dating someone and that’s not ever been my style so I told him to kick rocks. Well we texted as friends for a month and I actually starting liking the guy…. A lot. Which led to sexting…Which led to meeting up… And other things… At one point I said “if this isn’t going anywhere then we should stop talking” and he has a way of making me feel like we should at least stay friends. But it never stays that way long. We actually just had sex for the first time and he is still talking to me but I now feel the need to be jealous. And maybe check his Facebook page often! I know I sound like a crazy bitch but dude has really got me falling!

So anyways he has a lot of white friends that are girls…. And it seems like I may be in a “Weekly rotation”?!??? But I enjoy his company. I really enjoy the sex. And he is the first guy that I have slept with or even liked since my long term ex. Should I let this burn? And not talk at all to him anymore? Or have fun and risk getting hurt? – The Sex Is Good

You can read my response, HERE:
http://hellobeautiful.com/sex-love/terrancedean/should-i-let-myself-get-played-because-the-sex-is-so-good/ 

Friday, May 6, 2011

Today Is, "Straight From Your Gay Best Friend" Advice Day...

Dear Gay Best Friend,

This is what I’m going thru and what should I do?

My question is that of 2 parts. One is that after being in an 11 year relationship, and 10 years engaged, is it time to call it over?

Any time I bring up a wedding date once or 2 times a year we get into a big fight about it, and it never gets solved. What would you do?

And, the second part is that sex has gone to 1 time a year!! We haven’t had sex since March 9th 2010??? And we’re in May of 2010 go figure? But, I can drive her around all the time when she needs to go places. But, if I don’t feel like driving she blows a head gasket over it because she hates driving. But, she drives to work as well as I do 5 days a week.

Tell me what you think I should do – Want To Get Married

You can read my response, HERE: 
http://hellobeautiful.com/sex-love/terrancedean/weve-been-engaged-for-10-years-she-wont-set-a-wedding-date/

Thursday, May 5, 2011

Today Is, "Straight From Your Gay Best Friend" Advice Day...

Dear Gay Best Friend,

Ummm, okay so I just finished reading your recent book. I am assuming it was directed to a more mature audience, still I’ve found it as helpful as it was informative…but anywho, about me. I turn 18 years old this month and a while back I made a promise to myself and to God to give my virginity to my husband, a promise which I am still fully committed to. Being the only virgin and the most attractive in my circle of friends has its advantages and disadvantages. I have also decided to remain single until next year since I have so much going on between my senior year in high school and entering the world of college. Because of the drama I’ve been through before with exes I seriously want to avoid drama at all costs (or at least for now.) Basically I just wanted to know if you could possibly give me any advice on going about dating and interacting with prospective suitors in the future while maintaining my standards and keeping my promise to myself and to God. Thanks in Advance – The Virgin Chronicles 


You can read my response, HERE: 
http://hellobeautiful.com/sex-love/terrancedean/virgin-marriage-dating/

Tuesday, May 3, 2011

Today Is, "Straight From Your Gay Best Friend" Advice Day...

Dear Gay Best Friend

I meet a guy leaving work one morning he offered me a ride since we were having an ice storm, his convo was great, we talked in his car for almost an hour, and we kissed. I don’t know why but it felt right so we kissed again. We spoke on the phone when I was in the house. He also texted me after I texted him 2 days later but now it’s been like a week and he hasn’t called. Why? – He Hasn’t Called Me 


Dear Gay Best Friend

I am just looking for some advice. Here’s my story I met a man 3 1/2 years ago on a dating site. He was going through a divorce at the time. He is a very sweet, loving, kind, generous man and he treats me better than any man I have been involved with. I have grown to love this man and he has told me that he loves me as well. Our relationship is drama free! Here’s the kicker he is in love with someone else. Apparently he had a brief affair with another woman during his marriage and this was what really pushed him to file for the divorce. He was married for 25 years and had never been with another woman until this woman approached him. For some reason he fell in love with her after they had sex (which is what he said) yeah I know. Anyway the woman that he had the affair with is married to a wealthy older man. She has promised him since 2006 that she was going to leave her husband so they can be together of course it hasn’t happened yet. He continues to hold on to the idea that she is leaving and it’s going to happen soon. Mine you he has his own wealth and as I said he has been very generous with his funds to the point of purchasing a house for me. But he just can’t get this woman out of his head, because she is always in it. She’s his hair dresser. I’ve told him on numerous occasions that she is just telling him what he wants hear. Here recently I found out that he had had sex with her. What’s a girl to do? – Should I Stick Around 


Dear Gay Best Friend

I’ve got a problem. I’ve been with this man for ten years and seven of those years I’ve been trying to figure out how to leave. Now I know the first thing to say is just leave, but it’s not that simple. When we first got together he had a girlfriend and at the time I was just doing me. Really didn’t care that he had one. As time went things got more serious. And we eventually ended up together after about two years. Well at first everything was GREAT. I felt I had found the ONE. We ended up moving in together. After about a year everything seemed to change. The things that I thought we had in common we don’t. Don’t get me wrong I care for this man but am not in love with him. I’ve thought of leaving several times but can’t find the nerve to. Might sound crazy but don’t want to hurt him. What should I do? – Stuck Between A Rock And A Hard Place

You can read my response to all 3 letters, HERE: 

http://hellobeautiful.com/sex-love/terrancedean/today-is-basic-tuesday-basic-letters-from-basic-women/