TERRANCE DEAN: Today is, "Straight From Your Gay Best Friend" Advice Day With Bossip...

Monday, December 19, 2011

Today is, "Straight From Your Gay Best Friend" Advice Day With Bossip...

Dear Bossip,

I really need help sorting this situation out with logic rather my emotions.

I recently started dating a guy (about two months now). We really clicked and the chemistry is crazy. I’ve never connected with anyone like this before. We’ve hang out a few times, and I’ve meant a few members of his family. And things seems to be going ok… (We have not been intimate).

I knew he had a child from a previous relationship, but it was my understanding that him and the child’s mother were no longer together. But, of course he communicated they had a child together.

Well, come to find out…I had received an interesting voice message from, lo and behold, his WIFE who was expecting their second child!!

Shocked and devastated, I confronted him. Long story short, he said that they were “not together,” they were officially separated, and stopped living together 4 months before meeting me, and that she refuses to sign the divorce papers. That she was jealous, etc., blah blah, etc…

And the reason he didn’t come out front with it, was because he didn’t want to scare me off.
So what do I do? Could there be some truth to this twisted situation?

I have since been ignoring his calls, texts , but he is nonstop and wants to start over, fresh, brand new.
But I can’t ignore the elephant in room. Second child on the way – in three months. Still legally married.

I obviously do not want to invest time in someone who is unavailable and taken. That is just not cool. Do I just ignore him until he falls off the face of the earth? LOL…

I’m not mad at him (per se) just sad and disappointed. Because I really did start to have feelings for him and I kind of want closure. So, I feel at some point a conversation will have to take place.

Could we keep it in the friend/buddy lane? Any comments/advice you can provide would be great. I need a point of view that is neutral to the situation or the people involved. Thanks for your help! – Should I Believe Him

You can read my response, HERE:
http://bossip.com/512526/dear-bossip-ive-learned-the-man-ive-been-seeing-is-married-theyre-expecting-another-child/

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REVIEWS FOR "STRAIGHT FROM YOUR GAY BEST FRIEND"...

AOL Black Voices: “Dean doles out sage and sassy advice for women on some of life's most challenging issues, including when to leave a relationship, how to stay in the dating game and how to realize that you may not be that into him. 'Straight From Your Gay Best Friend' is a must read for any woman looking for a different perspective on love, life and spirituality.”

Sister2Sister Magazine: “Terrance Dean is distributing sound advice for women searching for themselves in Straight From Your Gay Best Friend. But like any good GBF he wants to help as many people as possible, and his book is the next best thing to a private session over cocktails. Trust us, the book (and the wisdom inside) is well worth the money.”

Huffington Post: “I do, however, appreciate most of Dean's simple, down-to-earth nuggets of wisdom, often delivered with a bit of spirituality. It is this type of straight-ahead, common sense advice that reflects the book's best moments.”

REVIEWS FOR "HIDING IN HIP HOP"....

Newsweek: "In a new memoir, a former MTV staffer dishes on the rap industry's persistent "down-low" culture. He doesn't name names, but it's a fascinating peek inside hip-hop's last taboo."

New York Magazine: "After all those shirtless rappers with their antigay lyrics, not to mention the ambiguous ones for R. Kelly’s “Trapped in the Closet,” someone has written the inevitable gay-hip-hop exposé."

VIBE Magazine: "Though Dean does not name names, he has found the strength to be his true self and reveal his own struggles as a down low man in the entertainment industry."

The Observer UK: "If homophobic rappers are looking for a dubious sense of 'authenticity', then they can just as easily find it in Dean's background as in the most masculine of gangsta rappers."

Essence Magazine: "...his descriptive, page-turning exposé about his closeted same-sex romances with Hollywood and Hip-Hop's leading Black men will be a rude awakening for many and healing for others."

GBM News: "His story is more than who's living life in or out of the closet...you will marvel at his accomplishments and will agree that he is an asset not just to the gay black community but to mankind, as there's nothing stronger than the human-spirit."

NOW Magazine Toronto: "Terrance Dean pours his soul out as he details the dimensions of African-American and -Canadian gay male oppression. Many will relate to his inner turmoil, and particularly the way family and church fail to offer safe havens. Dean laments that the world is not yet ready to face the truth about black gay/lesbian celebrities’ sexuality. With this book, however, he definitely sparks the much-needed conversation about gays inside the hip-hop nation."

AOL Black Voices: "Dean raises an important question regarding acceptance of homosexuality in the black community. And in Hiding in Hip Hop, he provides some context for his life by discussing his tumultuous upbringing."

The Michigan Front Page: "This book was a real page turner that stimulated the thirst for a deeper understanding of the plight that many homosexual individuals deal with in living with their sexuality that is often shrouded in a world of secrecy."