Tuesday, November 29, 2011
Today is, "Straight From Your Gay Best Friend" Advice Day With Bossip...
Help! I’ve been in a relationship for about 19 months.
My boyfriend is everything I ever wanted; cute, ambitious, successful, athletic, and intelligent. I have more than a few issues- I talk to him and see him less and less every month and I haven’t met any of his family.
First off, we met at a club in the city of Windsor a few hours away from Toronto. We exchanged numbers and he ended up calling me the week after. After seeing him a few more times, talking on the phone almost every day, and developing this strong connection, he asked me about being exclusive and I agreed.
He’s been taking me to this rental property he claimed to be renovating. For the last 6 months he’s been taking me to motels and hotels because he said the property was sold. He says he doesn’t want me to feel uncomfortable at the home he shares with his mom which is why he opts to check in somewhere. I don’t even know where he lives!
Sometimes I call and never get him. I’d go more than a week without hearing from him. He always claims to be taken aback with family issues or working late, or being called out for last minute business meetings/trips. On special holidays and his birthday he’s unavailable and he’s forgotten my last two birthdays. I always heard stories about his family but I am still yet to meet any of them. I’ve only met one of his “home boys.” The biggest thing is that when we first met, he claimed to have no family in the country – that he had to do a lot of commuting to the United States to see them. The thing is, every time he stands me up or I don’t hear from him, a new family member or issue comes out of the woodwork.
Am I being delusional? Is this really a relationship? Should I just take the advice of my family and friends that he’s up to no good and this scenario is more than fishy? Please Help! – Desperately Delusional
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