TERRANCE DEAN: Today Is, "Straight From Your Gay Best Friend" Advice Day...

Monday, January 3, 2011

Today Is, "Straight From Your Gay Best Friend" Advice Day...

Dear Gay Best Friend,

I was involved with a guy earlier on this year. Later after I broke it off with him I found out I had herpes 2. I was so disgusted and hurt. We used a condom, but it came off. I still find it hard to believe I have this disease because I’ve always been careful with who I’m with. We only talked like four months. Since then I have decided to be and stay single because I don’t want to pass it to no one whatsoever. So, I stay to myself dealing with this by myself and knowing that I may be myself. I don’t know if I will ever find someone that will accept me with this.

Recently I’ve taken interest in this guy from my job. We just went on a dinner last weekend. Afterwards, I let him know that I was interested in him. I want to go out again with him, but I just can’t imagine how he will react when I tell him my situation, especially if anything sexual is to come into play. But, I will tell him most definitely. I just don’t know if he will be interested in the two of us continuing to talk. So far we’ve only kissed. But, we talk all the time and I like his personality. We just click.

So please tell me what should I do about him? I’m ready to be with someone, but scared at the same time. Reading your articles put me at ease and then some articles I feel like just be celibate and masturbate. LOL. Well, what should I do? Please help! – Ready To Date With A Disease

You can read my response, HERE:
http://hellobeautiful.com/sex-love/terrancedean/i-have-a-disease-and-i-want-to-date-in-2011/

1 comment:

Anonymous said...: I contacted Dr. Lee about my Fiance. We were engaged for two years, and dated for three. Everything in the relationship was great. One day, out of the clear blue, he tells me to put the wedding plans on hold. I suspected that he was getting nervous, possibly getting cold feet because the wedding was coming up in the next few months. Few days pass by, I found out that his ex got into the picture and was trying to ruin our relationship. When speaking with Dr. Lee, he told me I was compatible for a spell. Soon after, he helped us reunite. Contact him via Ancientfathersandmothers@gmail.com; December 31, 2012 at 6:27 AM

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REVIEWS FOR "STRAIGHT FROM YOUR GAY BEST FRIEND"...

AOL Black Voices: “Dean doles out sage and sassy advice for women on some of life's most challenging issues, including when to leave a relationship, how to stay in the dating game and how to realize that you may not be that into him. 'Straight From Your Gay Best Friend' is a must read for any woman looking for a different perspective on love, life and spirituality.”

Sister2Sister Magazine: “Terrance Dean is distributing sound advice for women searching for themselves in Straight From Your Gay Best Friend. But like any good GBF he wants to help as many people as possible, and his book is the next best thing to a private session over cocktails. Trust us, the book (and the wisdom inside) is well worth the money.”

Huffington Post: “I do, however, appreciate most of Dean's simple, down-to-earth nuggets of wisdom, often delivered with a bit of spirituality. It is this type of straight-ahead, common sense advice that reflects the book's best moments.”

REVIEWS FOR "HIDING IN HIP HOP"....

Newsweek: "In a new memoir, a former MTV staffer dishes on the rap industry's persistent "down-low" culture. He doesn't name names, but it's a fascinating peek inside hip-hop's last taboo."

New York Magazine: "After all those shirtless rappers with their antigay lyrics, not to mention the ambiguous ones for R. Kelly’s “Trapped in the Closet,” someone has written the inevitable gay-hip-hop exposé."

VIBE Magazine: "Though Dean does not name names, he has found the strength to be his true self and reveal his own struggles as a down low man in the entertainment industry."

The Observer UK: "If homophobic rappers are looking for a dubious sense of 'authenticity', then they can just as easily find it in Dean's background as in the most masculine of gangsta rappers."

Essence Magazine: "...his descriptive, page-turning exposé about his closeted same-sex romances with Hollywood and Hip-Hop's leading Black men will be a rude awakening for many and healing for others."

GBM News: "His story is more than who's living life in or out of the closet...you will marvel at his accomplishments and will agree that he is an asset not just to the gay black community but to mankind, as there's nothing stronger than the human-spirit."

NOW Magazine Toronto: "Terrance Dean pours his soul out as he details the dimensions of African-American and -Canadian gay male oppression. Many will relate to his inner turmoil, and particularly the way family and church fail to offer safe havens. Dean laments that the world is not yet ready to face the truth about black gay/lesbian celebrities’ sexuality. With this book, however, he definitely sparks the much-needed conversation about gays inside the hip-hop nation."

AOL Black Voices: "Dean raises an important question regarding acceptance of homosexuality in the black community. And in Hiding in Hip Hop, he provides some context for his life by discussing his tumultuous upbringing."

The Michigan Front Page: "This book was a real page turner that stimulated the thirst for a deeper understanding of the plight that many homosexual individuals deal with in living with their sexuality that is often shrouded in a world of secrecy."