Have you gotten your copy of my new book, yet? It's in stores everywhere and online at Amazon.com. Order yours today!
http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Your-Best-Friend-Relationships/dp/1932841563/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1288280174&sr=1-1
Thursday, October 28, 2010
Get Your Copy Of My New Book Today!...
Have you gotten your copy of my new book, yet? It's in stores everywhere and online at Amazon.com. Order yours today!
http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Your-Best-Friend-Relationships/dp/1932841563/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1288280174&sr=1-1
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Today Is, "He Can Get It" Wednesday: Elliot....
This week’s featured sexy model is Elliot Taylor. This twenty-year old cutie was born in San Diego, California. But, since he was a young boy, he’s moved back and forth from Texas. His current home is in Spring Valley, California. This is where he spent most of his high school and right before he started college.
Elliot will be a student at the University of Arizona in December where he will run track. He plans to study Kinesiology. He also works part-time for Hollister Inc.
Elliot is actually new to the modeling game. He’s only been doing it for about five months. “I always had the idea of doing modeling,” Elliot said. “But, never really wanted to pursue it until I found the website Model Mayhem. There, I met a couple of people who felt I had great potential. From then, I just ran with it and it has worked pretty well.”
You can read and see more of Elliot, HERE:
http://hellobeautiful.com/sex-love/he-can-get-it/terrancedean/he-can-get-it-wednesday-elliot/
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
Today Is, Straight From Your Gay Best Friend, Advice Day...
Dear Gay Best Friend,
First and foremost, I must say how I truly appreciate how you always keep it real rather than tell others what you think they would like to hear. One thing that I cherish the most in this world is honesty because at the end of the day the truth will always set you free.
Where do I begin? Well, I’m a sophomore in college and I met this guy who is a year older than I last semester. While I was taking this class, two months during the semester we became acquainted we exchanged phone numbers, and we went on several dates. I never dated anyone who was the same age as I. I’ve always dated older men. On our very first date he told me that he used to have player tendencies. (That right there was a red flag) but my naive behind wanted to give this man the benefit of the doubt silly me. SMH.
He introduced me to his inner circle of friends, but he still hasn’t brought me inside of his house, nor have I met any of his family. So, as we were still in the midst of getting to know each other, one day we went to go see a movie and I asked to borrow his phone and I noticed that I was stored in his contact list under “work” and not “mobile” along with “some other females” (that was red flag number two). Yet, again I gave him the benefit of the doubt. So, it was my birthday, he took me out and we spent the whole day together that day and one thing led to another and BOOM the unthinkable happened. The next day after it happened, we went out to the park for a jog, and I asked him what was the status of the relationship and he said, “That we were heading in the right path,” and, “Am I still his baby girl?” During our first talk about the situation, I told him that I wouldn’t mind being casual if I knew where it was heading.
Two months go by and he still has not brought up the subject, and since that night, I chose NOT to be intimate with him. I must admit that I do like this man, but I feel as though he is playing with me and my emotions. The guessing game of if we are or if we aren’t was really taking a toll on my brain. So I brought it up again and I asked him what is it that he was wants? And he asked me if I saw myself being with him and I answered him truthfully and I said yes and he said, “That he didn’t mind being in a relationship” and he also said, “That we just don’t have a physical connection but we have an emotional one as well, and that he could hold a conversation with me and he likes me and blah blah blah.” Then I asked him why is it now I tell you how I feel and about the situation, and suddenly you wouldn’t mind a relationship? I felt as though he was really trying to tell me what he thought I wanted to hear but I really wanted him to keep it 100% with me.
During our second conversation about the so-called relationship situation, I told him that it seems as though he isn’t really ready for a relationship right now because he’s emotionally unavailable, and he tried to throw the good old reverse psychology in my face and said, “Oh, it’s like I’m pushing him away nonsense.” I told him that I’m grown and if he’s not willing to be serious with me I will not continue to waste my time and his as well and it’s cool and I wish him the very best of luck. So it has been exactly a week since I’ve changed my number and I haven’t gotten in contact with him yet, and I don’t think I want to either. A small part of me wants to see if there is more and if he would just be honest and the rest of me feels as though I’m wasting my time. Was there anything there to begin with? Or was he just toying with me? Should I just move on with my life? What is a woman to do? — Oh So Confused
You can read my response, HERE:
http://hellobeautiful.com/sex-love/terrancedean/i-met-a-guy-in-college-but-after-sex-he-says-hes-not-physically-attracted/
First and foremost, I must say how I truly appreciate how you always keep it real rather than tell others what you think they would like to hear. One thing that I cherish the most in this world is honesty because at the end of the day the truth will always set you free.
Where do I begin? Well, I’m a sophomore in college and I met this guy who is a year older than I last semester. While I was taking this class, two months during the semester we became acquainted we exchanged phone numbers, and we went on several dates. I never dated anyone who was the same age as I. I’ve always dated older men. On our very first date he told me that he used to have player tendencies. (That right there was a red flag) but my naive behind wanted to give this man the benefit of the doubt silly me. SMH.
He introduced me to his inner circle of friends, but he still hasn’t brought me inside of his house, nor have I met any of his family. So, as we were still in the midst of getting to know each other, one day we went to go see a movie and I asked to borrow his phone and I noticed that I was stored in his contact list under “work” and not “mobile” along with “some other females” (that was red flag number two). Yet, again I gave him the benefit of the doubt. So, it was my birthday, he took me out and we spent the whole day together that day and one thing led to another and BOOM the unthinkable happened. The next day after it happened, we went out to the park for a jog, and I asked him what was the status of the relationship and he said, “That we were heading in the right path,” and, “Am I still his baby girl?” During our first talk about the situation, I told him that I wouldn’t mind being casual if I knew where it was heading.
Two months go by and he still has not brought up the subject, and since that night, I chose NOT to be intimate with him. I must admit that I do like this man, but I feel as though he is playing with me and my emotions. The guessing game of if we are or if we aren’t was really taking a toll on my brain. So I brought it up again and I asked him what is it that he was wants? And he asked me if I saw myself being with him and I answered him truthfully and I said yes and he said, “That he didn’t mind being in a relationship” and he also said, “That we just don’t have a physical connection but we have an emotional one as well, and that he could hold a conversation with me and he likes me and blah blah blah.” Then I asked him why is it now I tell you how I feel and about the situation, and suddenly you wouldn’t mind a relationship? I felt as though he was really trying to tell me what he thought I wanted to hear but I really wanted him to keep it 100% with me.
During our second conversation about the so-called relationship situation, I told him that it seems as though he isn’t really ready for a relationship right now because he’s emotionally unavailable, and he tried to throw the good old reverse psychology in my face and said, “Oh, it’s like I’m pushing him away nonsense.” I told him that I’m grown and if he’s not willing to be serious with me I will not continue to waste my time and his as well and it’s cool and I wish him the very best of luck. So it has been exactly a week since I’ve changed my number and I haven’t gotten in contact with him yet, and I don’t think I want to either. A small part of me wants to see if there is more and if he would just be honest and the rest of me feels as though I’m wasting my time. Was there anything there to begin with? Or was he just toying with me? Should I just move on with my life? What is a woman to do? — Oh So Confused
You can read my response, HERE:
http://hellobeautiful.com/sex-love/terrancedean/i-met-a-guy-in-college-but-after-sex-he-says-hes-not-physically-attracted/
New Interview With Rolling Out Magazine....
'Gay Best Friend' Author, Terrance Dean, Wants Bishop Eddie Long’s Wife to Break Silence
Hiding In Hip-Hop author and journalist Terrance Dean serves up anecdotes and wisdom for women on topics such as style, sex, relationships and spirituality in Straight From Your Gay Best Friend: The Straight-Up Truth About Relationships, Work, and Having a Fabulous Life.
Rolling Out spoke with Dean about how women can protect themselves from being victimized, his disappointment in black leaders concerning the Bishop Eddie Long sex scandal and why he wants Bishop Long’s wife, Vanessa, to take action. –souleo
Why did you write this book?
I wrote this book for women to understand that in order to have love in any type of relationship there has to first be self-love. Once you love, embrace and know your self-worth, you won’t allow anyone to mistreat you or abuse you no matter what. So heal yourself and know that you’re deserving and God’s child.
What are your thoughts surrounding the Bishop Eddie Long gay sex scandal?
I feel sorry for the victims and how they are being demonized in the media [by] commentators. We should have town hall meetings and every church should talk about it. Unfortunately, our black leaders are not saying anything. Where [are] Jesse Jackson, Tavis Smiley and Soledad O’Brien? … When [will O’Brien] do her CNN exposé? This is the perfect opportunity now with so many young black men that have been sexually molested.
If you were Vanessa Long’s gay best friend, what advice would give her about handling this scandal?
Girl, run! But really, this is the perfect opportunity to have a conversation with your husband and the church community. … She is the first lady and we look to them as pillars. So find out the truth … and become an advocate regardless of what happened because this is happening more often than not. So girl, get off your butt and do something.
Source: Rolling Out - http://www.rollingout.com/insiderohome/ro-today/11480-gay-best-friend-author-terrance-dean-wants-bishop-eddie-longs-wife-to-break-silence.html
Amazon.com - http://www.amazon.com/Str...aight-Your-Best-Friend-Relationships/dp/1932841563/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1288102232&sr=1-1
Hiding In Hip-Hop author and journalist Terrance Dean serves up anecdotes and wisdom for women on topics such as style, sex, relationships and spirituality in Straight From Your Gay Best Friend: The Straight-Up Truth About Relationships, Work, and Having a Fabulous Life.
Rolling Out spoke with Dean about how women can protect themselves from being victimized, his disappointment in black leaders concerning the Bishop Eddie Long sex scandal and why he wants Bishop Long’s wife, Vanessa, to take action. –souleo
Why did you write this book?
I wrote this book for women to understand that in order to have love in any type of relationship there has to first be self-love. Once you love, embrace and know your self-worth, you won’t allow anyone to mistreat you or abuse you no matter what. So heal yourself and know that you’re deserving and God’s child.
What are your thoughts surrounding the Bishop Eddie Long gay sex scandal?
I feel sorry for the victims and how they are being demonized in the media [by] commentators. We should have town hall meetings and every church should talk about it. Unfortunately, our black leaders are not saying anything. Where [are] Jesse Jackson, Tavis Smiley and Soledad O’Brien? … When [will O’Brien] do her CNN exposé? This is the perfect opportunity now with so many young black men that have been sexually molested.
If you were Vanessa Long’s gay best friend, what advice would give her about handling this scandal?
Girl, run! But really, this is the perfect opportunity to have a conversation with your husband and the church community. … She is the first lady and we look to them as pillars. So find out the truth … and become an advocate regardless of what happened because this is happening more often than not. So girl, get off your butt and do something.
Source: Rolling Out - http://www.rollingout.com/insiderohome/ro-today/11480-gay-best-friend-author-terrance-dean-wants-bishop-eddie-longs-wife-to-break-silence.html
Amazon.com - http://www.amazon.com/Str...aight-Your-Best-Friend-Relationships/dp/1932841563/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1288102232&sr=1-1
A Few Reviews For My New Book...
Review from Sister2Sister Magazine: "For more good advice from Terrance, you can pick up a copy of Straight From Your Gay Best Friend at stores and online retailers now. Trust us, the book (and the wisdom inside) is well worth the money."
Let's go to the top, people. To the number one spot. We're there! God's leading the way. With God all things are possible. Inspire, empower, & enlighten!
Get your copy today! It's in bookstores everywhere, and available online at Amazon.com:
http://www.amazon.com/Str...aight-Your-Best-Friend-Relationships/dp/
Saturday, October 23, 2010
Check Out This Wonderful Interview I Did With Personality Abiola Abrams...
My interview begins around the 35:00 mark.
I hope you enjoyed the video.
Make sure to get your copy of my new book today. It's in bookstores everywhere.
You can also order online at Amazon, here:
http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Your-Best-Friend-Relationships/dp/1932841563/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1287868777&sr=1-1
Friday, October 22, 2010
Review And Interview With Sister2Sister Magazine...
From his column on HelloBeautiful.com to book signings all over the country, Terrance is always running into women who could use a little advice on life, love and the wonders of a new wardrobe.
“Women were lined up to ask me questions of ‘How can I tell if my man is on the down-low?’ Then the questions changed to ‘I need relationship advice,’” Terrance said recalling his experience while promoting Hiding In Hip Hop. “Women were pouring out their hearts about their relationships.”
He’s gotten so many questions over the years that there’s no way he could possibly get to everyone on an individual basis. But like any good GBF he wants to help as many people as possible, and his book is the next best thing to a private session over cocktails. The aim of Straight From Your Gay Best Friend is to “get back to women knowing their essence and their beauty.”
“I think every woman realizes, ‘You know, I really need to have a gay best friend in my life,’” Terrence explained. According to SFYGBF, it’s practically a necessity if you ever want to realize just how fab you are because they give you the straight up truth about everything. They will let you have it, but they’ll always do it with love.
You can read the rest of the interview here:
http://s2smagazine.com/stories/2010/10/terrance-dean-dispenses-advice-new-book
Contest Winners - WHY I LOVE MY GAY BEST FRIEND FOREVER...
Michelle, Theresa, Sheji, and Lyser shared empowering and inspiring stories about their gay best friends, and the strength of their friendships which made them the winning choices.
HelloBeautiful & I would like to thank all of our readers who participated in the “WHY I LOVE MY GAY BEST FRIEND FOREVER” contest.
It’s powerful and amazing how these women were able to speak wonderfully about their gay best friends. They each shared stories of how their friendships have stood the test of time. They also shared the positive influences their gay best friends had in their lives, and how they were transformed emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually.
So, congratulations ladies!
They will be receiving a signed copy of my new advice book, STRAIGHT FROM YOUR GAY BEST FRIEND – The Straight Up Truth About Relationships, Work, and Having A Fabulous Life (Agate/Bolden – October 15, 2010)
The book is also available in bookstores everywhere, as well as on Amazon.com:
http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Your-Best-Friend-Relationships/dp/1932841563/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1287717164&sr=1-1
Monday, October 18, 2010
Chapter Sampling From My New Book...
Chapter 14 - You Get What You Ask For: Recognize the Difference Between A Winner and A Loser:
There are clear signs to help recognize when you have a loser:
* He doesn't want to work.
* He borrows money from you.
* He lives at home with his mother, not because he has to, but because he wants to, and he is over twenty-five.
* He drives your car while you are at work and doesn't put gas in it.
* He can't cook, clean, or do any type of household chores.
What is a winner? He is the complete opposite of a loser:
* He has his own money, car, apartment or house, and career.
* He takes you out to dinner, movies, and cultural events.
* He doesn't ask you for money.
* He has a relationship with God and attends somebody's church, synagogue, or mosque.
* The respect he gives his mother is the same respect he gives you.
The book is now in stores everywhere, as well as online. You can order here:
http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Your-Best-Friend-Relationships/dp/1932841563/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1287159764&sr=1-1
There are clear signs to help recognize when you have a loser:
* He doesn't want to work.
* He borrows money from you.
* He lives at home with his mother, not because he has to, but because he wants to, and he is over twenty-five.
* He drives your car while you are at work and doesn't put gas in it.
* He can't cook, clean, or do any type of household chores.
What is a winner? He is the complete opposite of a loser:
* He has his own money, car, apartment or house, and career.
* He takes you out to dinner, movies, and cultural events.
* He doesn't ask you for money.
* He has a relationship with God and attends somebody's church, synagogue, or mosque.
* The respect he gives his mother is the same respect he gives you.
The book is now in stores everywhere, as well as online. You can order here:
http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Your-Best-Friend-Relationships/dp/1932841563/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1287159764&sr=1-1
Thursday, October 14, 2010
Check Out My Interview With Glamour Magazine...
Today we’re talking with Terrance Dean, author of a new book called Straight From Your Gay Best Friend: The Straight-Up Truth About Relationships, Work, and Having a Fabulous Life! According to Terrance, gay men are a woman's best ally. “We know how men think," he explains, "yet we also relate to our BFFs because we’re in touch with our emotions…We are not trying to sleep with our good girlfriends, and we certainly won’t borrow your best fashions and not return them.” Read on to find out what your gay best friend knows!
Erin: Since you know men so well, which ones should we stay away from?
Terrance: If a man tells you he is not interested in being in a relationship, then guess what? That means not with you. If a man tells you that he has a girlfriend but is always looking for more female friends, run, run, run! If a man calls you after midnight to come over to his house, well, this is an easy one. If a man is not willing to define the relationship he has with you, then you are not in a relationship. His response is generally, “We’re cool,” or “Why do we have to define this?” If you’ve been seeing a man for over six months and you’ve never been to his home, have not met any of his friends or family members, and you are still not sure where he works, this is a clear indication that you don’t have a relationship with him.
You can read the rest of the interview, HERE:
http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/smitten/2010/10/dating-advice-straight-from-yo.html
Check Out My Feature On Hello Beautiful...
For those of you who follow my weekly advice column on HelloBeautiful, I am very excited to share with you my new book based on my column, STRAIGHT FROM YOUR GAY BEST FRIEND. It’s because of all of you, and your letters, seeking advice on various issues related to dating, relationships, love, family, and life that I was inspired to turn this column into a book. Your letters from the heart inspired me and I hope you will find my book truly inspiring to you as well. I wrote this book out of love, honesty, and truth. I hope you will help me in celebrating this milestone as well as celebrating each of you who I feel, and deem, as FABULOUS, FIERCE, and POWERFUL!
So, I need your support, love, and sharing of this book with all your friends, family, co-workers, colleagues, and anyone else you feel may benefit from the book. Just like my column the book is filled with wit, sass, humor, spirituality, and love. The book is in stores everywhere and you can also order from Amazon, HERE: http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Your-Best-Friend-Relationships/dp/1932841563/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1287075731&sr=1-1
Here is my Q&A -
HB: Is the gay best friend here to stay or is it a passing societal whim?
TD: The gay best friend is here to stay. We’ve always been around. It’s just that now we are getting more recognition and visibility thanks in part to television programs, movies, and the internet. People will be amazed at the number of women who rely on their gay best friends for advice about everything, from relationships and fashion to dealing with their family members.
HB: What does the gay best friend have to offer a woman that her girlfriends don’t?
TD: First and foremost, we are men. We know men. We know how we act, and what we will do in various situations. We’re the best ally for a woman who needs advice on her relationships and love life. Trust me, we are not going to steer women wrong. We can also be that go-to person for a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, and the straight truth about everything. We’re not in competition with our good girlfriends, nor do we have an ulterior motive. We are not trying to sleep with our girlfriends, and we certainly won’t borrow your best fashions and not return them.
HB: What do you hope your readers will walk away with from this book?
TD: I hope readers will walk away with a sense of empowerment and inspiration. Women are naturally powerful, fabulous, and intelligent. In my book, I only reinforce what they already know, and remind them of who they are. Sometimes we forget who we are and what we are here to do, especially when it comes to dealing with other people. My book is intended to provide women with some assistance on their journeys, remind them of their inheritance of what is good and true. I also want every woman to know that no matter what, no one can take away your true divine place in this world. You have a purpose, and your whole life and whatever you desire all depend on you recognizing your purpose.
You can read the rest of the interview, HERE:
http://hellobeautiful.com/special-features/read-a-book/terrancedean/author-terrance-dean-gives-it-straight-from-your-gay-best-friend/
So, I need your support, love, and sharing of this book with all your friends, family, co-workers, colleagues, and anyone else you feel may benefit from the book. Just like my column the book is filled with wit, sass, humor, spirituality, and love. The book is in stores everywhere and you can also order from Amazon, HERE: http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Your-Best-Friend-Relationships/dp/1932841563/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1287075731&sr=1-1
Here is my Q&A -
HB: Is the gay best friend here to stay or is it a passing societal whim?
TD: The gay best friend is here to stay. We’ve always been around. It’s just that now we are getting more recognition and visibility thanks in part to television programs, movies, and the internet. People will be amazed at the number of women who rely on their gay best friends for advice about everything, from relationships and fashion to dealing with their family members.
HB: What does the gay best friend have to offer a woman that her girlfriends don’t?
TD: First and foremost, we are men. We know men. We know how we act, and what we will do in various situations. We’re the best ally for a woman who needs advice on her relationships and love life. Trust me, we are not going to steer women wrong. We can also be that go-to person for a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, and the straight truth about everything. We’re not in competition with our good girlfriends, nor do we have an ulterior motive. We are not trying to sleep with our girlfriends, and we certainly won’t borrow your best fashions and not return them.
HB: What do you hope your readers will walk away with from this book?
TD: I hope readers will walk away with a sense of empowerment and inspiration. Women are naturally powerful, fabulous, and intelligent. In my book, I only reinforce what they already know, and remind them of who they are. Sometimes we forget who we are and what we are here to do, especially when it comes to dealing with other people. My book is intended to provide women with some assistance on their journeys, remind them of their inheritance of what is good and true. I also want every woman to know that no matter what, no one can take away your true divine place in this world. You have a purpose, and your whole life and whatever you desire all depend on you recognizing your purpose.
You can read the rest of the interview, HERE:
http://hellobeautiful.com/special-features/read-a-book/terrancedean/author-terrance-dean-gives-it-straight-from-your-gay-best-friend/
Backstory: One Inspiration On Why I Wrote My New Book...
Backstory:
Before I starting writing my new book, "STRAIGHT FROM YOUR GAY BEST FRIEND," I was in a relationship with someone whom I thought I would be with forever. Then I heard this song by Mary J. Blige and like a Mack truck, it hit me. This song was my relationship. I know you all know what I'm talking about. Don't be shy. We've all been there. Thinking he or she is the one. Thank God for wisdom, strength, growth, and love.
Now make sure to order your copy of the book today:
http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Your-Bestsr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1287068658&sr=1-1
Before I starting writing my new book, "STRAIGHT FROM YOUR GAY BEST FRIEND," I was in a relationship with someone whom I thought I would be with forever. Then I heard this song by Mary J. Blige and like a Mack truck, it hit me. This song was my relationship. I know you all know what I'm talking about. Don't be shy. We've all been there. Thinking he or she is the one. Thank God for wisdom, strength, growth, and love.
Now make sure to order your copy of the book today:
http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Your-Best
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
Interviews Today...
Hello everyone!
Today is a busy one for me. I will be on Headline News doing an interview in which I will be discussing the black church, and my new book. It will be a phoner, but they will have my photo up. Tune in to Headline News at 4pm est/1pm pst.
After Headline News I am doing an interview with the Joy Daily Show at 5pm est/2pm pst. You can watch on Shovio here: http://joydailytv.com/show/
Then, after the Joy Daily Show, I am doing an interview with 3 Chicks On Lit at 7pm est/3pm pst. You can listen here: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/chicksonlit
Thank you all for your continued love and support!
Make sure to get your copy of the book. It's in bookstores everywhere, and you can also order online, here:
http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Your-Best-Friend-Relationships/dp/1932841563/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1286987154&sr=1-1
Today is a busy one for me. I will be on Headline News doing an interview in which I will be discussing the black church, and my new book. It will be a phoner, but they will have my photo up. Tune in to Headline News at 4pm est/1pm pst.
After Headline News I am doing an interview with the Joy Daily Show at 5pm est/2pm pst. You can watch on Shovio here: http://joydailytv.com/show/
Then, after the Joy Daily Show, I am doing an interview with 3 Chicks On Lit at 7pm est/3pm pst. You can listen here: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/chicksonlit
Thank you all for your continued love and support!
Make sure to get your copy of the book. It's in bookstores everywhere, and you can also order online, here:
http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Your-Best-Friend-Relationships/dp/1932841563/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1286987154&sr=1-1
Today Is, "He Can Get It" Wednesday: Roman...
And, of course this is declared as “He Can Get It” Wednesday.
Today’s visual stimulation is the dashing and attractive twenty-four year old, Roman. He hails from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma.
Roman came out of the US NAVY a year ago and moved to New York. He moved to New York on a quest for a new career and passion which is modeling and acting. He did a test shoot when he first moved to New York and started receiving great feedback. Roman then stepped into a few agencies and they were impressed with his work and in a short amount of time.
You can read and see more of Roman, HERE:
http://hellobeautiful.com/sex-love/he-can-get-it/terrancedean/he-can-get-it-wednesday-roman/
Tuesday, October 12, 2010
Chapter Sampling From My New Book....
Chapter 11 - Be Still and Wait: Patience Is A Virtue
Anything worth having is worth waiting for.
When people tell you who they are, believe them.
If they tell you they are crazy, then, guess what? They are crazy.
If they tell you they are obnoxious, then, guess what? They are obnoxious.
In order to listen and hear Spirit speaking, you have to be still. We are so caught up in our busy lives and schedules that we do not make the time to be still long enough to even hear ourselves think.
My new book is in stores everywhere! Make sure to get to your local bookstore and get your copy, and one for your friend, neighbor, loved one, family member, or colleague.
You can also order your copy on amazon, here:
http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Your-Best-Friend-Relationships/dp/1932841563/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1286818389&sr=1-1
Anything worth having is worth waiting for.
When people tell you who they are, believe them.
If they tell you they are crazy, then, guess what? They are crazy.
If they tell you they are obnoxious, then, guess what? They are obnoxious.
In order to listen and hear Spirit speaking, you have to be still. We are so caught up in our busy lives and schedules that we do not make the time to be still long enough to even hear ourselves think.
My new book is in stores everywhere! Make sure to get to your local bookstore and get your copy, and one for your friend, neighbor, loved one, family member, or colleague.
You can also order your copy on amazon, here:
http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Your-Best-Friend-Relationships/dp/1932841563/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1286818389&sr=1-1
Monday, October 11, 2010
The Mean Girls of Morehouse College...
WITHIN THE OPENLY GAY COMMUNITY AT ATLANTA’S MOREHOUSE COLLEGE, THERE’S A SUBGROUP: GENDER BENDERS WHO ROCK MAKEUP, MARC JACOBS TOTE BAGS, SKY-HIGH HEELS AND BEYONCÉ- STYLE HAIR WEAVES. CAN A MAN OF MOREHOUSE BE GAY? ABSOLUTELY. BUT CAN HE BE A WOMAN? MEET THE PLASTICS.
Diamond Martin Poulin, 20, teetering in strappy sandals with three-inch heels, steps into an eclectic clothing boutique in Little Five Points, a quaint cluster of shops and restaurants two and a half miles outside of downtown Atlanta. “Ooooh,” squeals Diamond. “What about this?” Holding up a white floor-skimming skirt with an eyelet hem, he swoons. The proprietor of the store looks up at Diamond, does a double take, and immediately picks up the cordless phone at the register. “There’s a man in here with heels on!” she whispers loudly into the phone. Diamond raises his eyebrows and continues browsing the racks. He shrugs when asked if the comment bothers him. “Isn’t it true?” he says, chuckling. “There is a man in here with heels on.”
Nibbling on sushi later that day, Diamond explains why he left after one year at Morehouse. A bastion for producing leaders in politics, community service and medicine, Morehouse College has long been viewed as the ultimate HBCU for young Black men, who are conferred with the mystique of being “Men of Morehouse.” Established in 1867 in Augusta, Georgia, as the Augusta Institute, the school counts such luminaries as Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.; Atlanta’s first Black mayor, Maynard H. Jackson, Jr.; financier Reginald E. Davis; School Daze writer/director Spike Lee; the late Keith “Guru” Elam of Gang Starr; and the late Def Jam exec Shakir Stewart among its graduates.
Read the rest of the story here:
http://www.vibe.com/content/mean-girls-morehouse
Saturday, October 9, 2010
Chapter Sampling From My New Book....
Chapter 9 - Family Dearest: You Can Pick Your Friends, But Not Your Family
Family. You've got to love them. I mean that literally. You've got to love them.
They certainly are not like friends, whom we can pick and choose. No, Miss Thang. Your family is yours by inheritance. They are part of your DNA, background, and future. They will always be a part of you - even when you may want them out of your life.
And some of them we truly wish were not part of our family tree.
Whew! Child, you know they ones. They won't let you be the Diva you are, especially while you're living the high life fabulously. Every step you take forward, they are right there to pull you back two steps. Grabbing your coattails and tugging on your fierce Valentino gown. LET ME GO!
Make sure to stop in your local bookstore today and get your copy. Tell all your friends!
You can also order online, here:
http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Your-Best-Friend-Relationships/dp/1932841563/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1286650418&sr=1-1
Family. You've got to love them. I mean that literally. You've got to love them.
They certainly are not like friends, whom we can pick and choose. No, Miss Thang. Your family is yours by inheritance. They are part of your DNA, background, and future. They will always be a part of you - even when you may want them out of your life.
And some of them we truly wish were not part of our family tree.
Whew! Child, you know they ones. They won't let you be the Diva you are, especially while you're living the high life fabulously. Every step you take forward, they are right there to pull you back two steps. Grabbing your coattails and tugging on your fierce Valentino gown. LET ME GO!
Make sure to stop in your local bookstore today and get your copy. Tell all your friends!
You can also order online, here:
http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Your-Best-Friend-Relationships/dp/1932841563/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1286650418&sr=1-1
Thursday, October 7, 2010
Chapter Sampling From My New Book....
Chapter 7: Working 9 to 5: Is This A Way To Make A Living?
If you don't like where you are as it relates to your job, don't sit around complaining about it. Do something about it. If that means staying up at night burning the midnight oil, then do it. Success comes at a price, and you must be willing to make sacrifices to accomplish your goals and have your dreams come true. The truth is, there is nothing you can't do. You are fierce, destined, and fabulous. But if you think you can't have it, then you won't.
STRAIGHT FROM YOUR GAY BEST FRIEND is in stores EVERYWHERE!
You can also order online HERE:
http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Your-Best-Friend-Relationships/dp/1932841563/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1286210453&sr=1-1
If you don't like where you are as it relates to your job, don't sit around complaining about it. Do something about it. If that means staying up at night burning the midnight oil, then do it. Success comes at a price, and you must be willing to make sacrifices to accomplish your goals and have your dreams come true. The truth is, there is nothing you can't do. You are fierce, destined, and fabulous. But if you think you can't have it, then you won't.
STRAIGHT FROM YOUR GAY BEST FRIEND is in stores EVERYWHERE!
You can also order online HERE:
http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Your-Best-Friend-Relationships/dp/1932841563/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1286210453&sr=1-1
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
Let's Put An End To Teen Gay Suicide....
Hello Everyone!
In the past three weeks there has been five incidents of teen gay suicides. I am asking if there is a person who makes your world better just because they exist please post the logo below on your blogs, FB pages, Twits, and with those you love.
Let's spread love.
Terrance Dean
In the past three weeks there has been five incidents of teen gay suicides. I am asking if there is a person who makes your world better just because they exist please post the logo below on your blogs, FB pages, Twits, and with those you love.
Let's spread love.
Enter The "I LOVE MY GAY BEST FRIEND FOREVER" Contest...
THE “WHY I LOVE MY GAY BEST FRIEND FOREVER” CONTEST
brought to you by Terrance Dean, Agate Publishing, & HelloBeautiful.com!
Ladies, do you have a gay best friend in your life? That special guy friend who tells you the straight up truth about your love-life, clothes, friends, and family? He’s your gay bestie, and your friendship has stood the test of time. Has your friendship with your gay best friend influenced your life in a positive way, and vice-versa? Transformed you emotionally or spiritually or intellectually, helped you through a challenging situation, or just been plain fun?
Tell us about it in the WHY I LOVE MY GAY BEST FRIEND FOREVER contest.
Ten people with the most captivating and compelling friendships will win a copy of best-selling author, Terrance Dean’s, new advice book, “Straight From Your Gay Best Friend – The Straight Up Truth About Relationships, Work, and Having A Fabulous Life” (Agate/Bolden – October 15, 2010)
http://hellobeautiful.com/special-features/contests/terrancedean/the-i-love-my-gay-best-friend-forever-contest/
1. Tell us of your special friendship and WHY I LOVE MY GAY BEST FRIEND FOREVER (350 words or less)
2. Please indicate your first names ONLY! i.e, (My name is “Tracey” and my gay best friend, “Eric,” has been my biggest advocate and support system).
3. Make sure to tell us how your gay best friend has impacted your life for the better and what makes your friendship so special. We want to celebrate the diversity and beauty in all friendships.
Winners will be chosen on October 15, 2010.
Today Is, "He Can Get It" Wednesday: Sean
This week’s featured model is the sexy and alluring Sean Gomes.
This twenty-four year old model was born in Brooklyn, NY, but moved to New Castle, Delaware when he was a child. He currently resides in Wilmington, DE
I asked Sean how did he get discovered and he replied, “Discovered is an interesting term. I don’t know if I’ve been discovered to the severity of someone finding me, and whisking me away to the runways of Paris, and Milan. However, I did get started in my modeling career by a friend and fellow model who thought I had potential. He guided me into the business and it took off from there.”
Currently, Sean’s full-time job has him working in radio sales and marketing.
You can read and see more of Sean, here:
http://hellobeautiful.com/sex-love/he-can-get-it/terrancedean/he-can-get-it-wednesday-sean/
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
Today Is, "Straight From Your Gay Best Friend" Advice Day...
I usually don’t do this but I really need some advice. Long story short my sister put her son out and when he wanted to come back home she put so many conditions on his return he felt like he could not go back home. For example, he had to break up with his girlfriend (who is white) and disassociate himself with all his friends unless she picked them for him to be friends with. This boy is 19 years old (was 18 when she put him out) and she is trying to control every aspect of his life.
She and I were very close, like best friends. We would talk, text, and email everyday and hangout at least four or five days a week. Since I have let my nephew come and live with me she has decided that I am dead to her, and what’s even worse is our kids can’t even talk. She has told her other kids (two of which go to school with her other children and are in the same grade as two of my kids and are best friends) that they are not allowed to speak to my kids.
When her in-laws came to visit he was allowed to come to her house and when they left he was no longer welcome and he came back with his feelings hurt and I had to comfort and console him. I am trying to be supportive but he is not living up to his end of the conditions of him moving in. He is working now and does not contribute to the house and he buys food and hides it upstairs in the room he shares with my son.
I found out a few days ago he has been going to his sister’s soccer games and practices and they have been coming to my house to get him. I don’t want his parents coming to my house and when they told me that I was no longer welcome in their home I respected that and have not been back since. I feel like he/they are going behind my back because he hasn’t told me he has been doing this.
I really do want him to work on his relationship with his parents because that is important but at the same time I feel like he is using me to be away from their rules but still have someone taking care of him. I am the favorite aunt to him and his siblings and now I have no relationship with them or my sister any longer because I decided to help him. When I found out they were coming to pick him up I got really angry because I have lost part of my family and one of my best friends and I also feel it’s disrespectful.
Am I wrong to feel this way? Should I say something to him or not, and if I do what should I say? If you don’t decide to use this for your column would you respond to me anyway and give me your advice. This is weighing very heavy on my heart and I don’t know what to do. – Feel Taken Advantage Of
You can read my response, here:
http://hellobeautiful.com/hellobeautiful-original/terrancedean/me-and-my-sister-are-not-speaking-because-her-son-lives-with-me/
You can order my new advice book, "Straight From Your Gay Best Friend" here:
http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Your-Best-Friend-Relationships/dp/1932841563/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1286303688&sr=1-1
My Recent Interview With AOL Black Voices....
Dean, bestselling author of 'Hiding in Hip Hop,' doles out sage and sassy advice for women on some of life's most challenging issues, including when to leave a relationship, how to stay in the dating game and how to realize that you may not be that into him.
'Straight From Your Gay Best Friend' is a must read for any woman looking for a different perspective on love, life and spirituality.
Dean, who moved to Los Angeles from New York last spring, is happily dating and working on his juicy debut novel, 'Mogul,' about the life of one of New York City's most beloved hip hop producers that is due out in June. BlackVoices.com caught up with the former MTV staffer. Excerpts of the conversation are below.
BlackVoices.com: Why did you decide to write 'Straight from your Gay Best Friend'?
Terrance Dean: There were two reasons. First, while I was on tour with 'Hiding in Hip Hop,' women were lining up to ask how they could tell if their men were on the down low. Second, they also were lining up to seek relationship advice. They wanted to know how to maintain their relationships and why men do certain things. So I found myself giving women relationship advice. And then when I started my advice column, 'Straight from Your Gay Best Friend,' I had hundreds of e-mails from women. A lot of women want to get advice from a man who is nonthreatening opposed to a man who might have an ulterior motive. I give advice lovingly, but with a little sass and humor.
You can read the rest of the interview, here:
http://www.bvonbooks.com/2010/10/05/interview-author-terrance-dean-straight-talk=gay-best-friend/
Monday, October 4, 2010
Chapter Sampling From My New Book...
Chapter 5: Get Some Me Time: Not Some Him, and Some Her, Just A Little Me Time
There is nothing like spending some quality time alone. Especially after a long day at work. You get to unwind, de-stress, and relax. There is no one around asking you any questions, nagging you, or asking you
to do something. It is time just for you.
Have you ever seen a woman who looks like she is carrying the weight of the world on her shoulders? I have. More than once. She is run-down, bags under her eyes, hair all over the top of her head, wig sitting lopsided, clothes disheveled. She is just a mess. I want to run over, grab her, and say, "Girl, what's wrong with you? Has life really been that mean?" But I don't, because I know any angry and stressed woman will whip her head toward me, put her hands on her hips, start rolling her neck, and read me the riot act.
The book is in stores EVERYWHERE!
You can also order online HERE:
http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Your-Best-Friend-Relationships/dp/1932841563/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1286210453&sr=1-1
There is nothing like spending some quality time alone. Especially after a long day at work. You get to unwind, de-stress, and relax. There is no one around asking you any questions, nagging you, or asking you
to do something. It is time just for you.
Have you ever seen a woman who looks like she is carrying the weight of the world on her shoulders? I have. More than once. She is run-down, bags under her eyes, hair all over the top of her head, wig sitting lopsided, clothes disheveled. She is just a mess. I want to run over, grab her, and say, "Girl, what's wrong with you? Has life really been that mean?" But I don't, because I know any angry and stressed woman will whip her head toward me, put her hands on her hips, start rolling her neck, and read me the riot act.
The book is in stores EVERYWHERE!
You can also order online HERE:
http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Your-Best-Friend-Relationships/dp/1932841563/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1286210453&sr=1-1
My Radio Interview From The Tom Joyner Morning Show...
I want to thank all of you who tuned in this past Friday to hear me on the Tom Joyner Morning Show with Jacque Reid speaking about my new book, "Straight From Your Gay Best Friend." The book is in stores now, and available online.
I got so many emails, text messages, phone calles, and FB messages on the great show and interview.
For those of you who missed it you can check it out here:
http://v3.player.abacast.com/player/player.php?pid=reachmedia_tjms&mediaurl=http://wm-ondemand.abacast.com/reachmediainc/100110/JACQUE.wma&gateway=http://asx.abacast.com/dynamic/reachmediainc.asx
Thanks again for all the love and support!
Terrance Dean
Sunday, October 3, 2010
A Chapter Sampling From My New Book...
Chapter 4 - Love Yourself: If You Don't, Who Will?
Spirit loves all of you, despite yourself. Spirit loves you enough to continously provide you with everything you need or want. There are no minimum requirements for Spirit to love you. So, why can't you do the same for yourself?
Girl, I am telling you, when you love you like no other, watch as Spirit brings more love into your life - like, eventually, the man you deserve.
Order your copy of the book today!
http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Your-Best-FrieUTF8&s=books&qid=1286036483&sr=1-1
And, below is the logo you can borrow to share with your friends. Encourage them to buy the book, get several copies, because I am sure there is someone you know who needs a good gay best friend!
Spirit loves all of you, despite yourself. Spirit loves you enough to continously provide you with everything you need or want. There are no minimum requirements for Spirit to love you. So, why can't you do the same for yourself?
Girl, I am telling you, when you love you like no other, watch as Spirit brings more love into your life - like, eventually, the man you deserve.
Order your copy of the book today!
http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Your-Best-Frie
And, below is the logo you can borrow to share with your friends. Encourage them to buy the book, get several copies, because I am sure there is someone you know who needs a good gay best friend!
Saturday, October 2, 2010
Friday, October 1, 2010
Check Out The Piece I Wrote For ESSENCE On Bishop Eddie Long...
Commentary: Bishop Eddie Long and The Final Taboo
Friday, October 1, 2010
by Terrance Dean
When I first heard about the allegations of sexual coercion, manipulation and molestation against Bishop Eddie Long, I gasped. Like most people, I was caught off guard. Especially that it was two young men who were making the claims. But, then a third and fourth came forward claiming the Bishop used his authority and power to coerce them. At the time of the alleged incidents, they were 17, 18, and 20 years old. I wondered, "Could it be true?" ...
I watched everything unfold quickly. This scandal is major breaking news on all the networks. The entire country is talking about the mega church bishop and his affairs with young men. The comments are blaring over the internet. Some people believe Bishop Eddie Long did it and that he is guilty. Others are adamant that he is innocent, and then there are a few who are unsure. The Black community seems to be at odds, fighting it out. The Black church and its many members are in an uproar. Yes, it's the state (public opinion) vs. the church.
I find it quite disturbing how many so-called "Christians" want to demonize the young men. I've read comments that say they are vile, ungodly, and how dare they attack a man of God with these claims. Many believe their allegations are false because those in the Black church don't want to acknowledge that gay men exist, or that sexual predators are in the church.
For the many ministers of music, choir members, ushers, deacons, ministers and others who hold a position in the church, and are gay, they are forced to not say anything. They are to keep their mouths shut and not be who they are. Unfortunately, the Black community likes to bury their heads and look the other way. And when it comes to the Black church, there is no opportunity to debate, or ask questions. Because, "Pastor said," or "Bishop said," and "Reverend said," and that's that!
So, I'm asking the question, "Why are we fighting? Isn't this is the perfect opportunity to have an open dialogue about sex, sexuality and the Black church? Molestation is prevalent and pervasive in our community. Stop pretending it doesn't exist! And, where is Tavis Smiley and his "Black In America" panel discussion on this? Where is Soledad O'Brien's news documentary on "Black in America - Sex, Gays, and the Black Church?" How come there have been no town hall meetings called? Why is Jesse Jackson or Al Sharpton not shouting and yelling from the rafters about Black men and sexual molestation? Hmm? Where is everyone?
Read the rest of the commentary, here:
http://www.essence.com/news/commentary_2/commentary_bishop_eddie_long_taboo_church_sex_scandal.php
A Chapter Sampling From My New Book...
CHAPTER 2: Friend or Foe? Recognize Your Frenemies
Remember that song, "They smile in your face, all the while they want to take your place, backstabbers!" Yes, that is your frenemie. They pretend to be your friend, but wait for your demise. Watch 'em!
Unfortunately, not everyone wants to see you do good, or live your dream. There are some dream stealers and they are probably in your circle. They are your frenemies. Yes, your friends and enemies, yet you don’t know they are your enemy because they smile in your face, yet they are secretly hoping and wishing that you fail at whatever you’re doing. Of course you don’t see them as an enemy because you wouldn’t knowingly associate with someone who is plotting your demise. No, they become your friend. They infiltrate your life, and at the right moment they do something that makes you question their friendship.
Please feel free to share the logo below with your friends, on your websites, blogs, Facebook, Twitter, and everywhere! Spread the love!
Order your book today:
http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Your-Best-Friend-Relationships/dp/1932841563/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1285945886&sr=1-1
Remember that song, "They smile in your face, all the while they want to take your place, backstabbers!" Yes, that is your frenemie. They pretend to be your friend, but wait for your demise. Watch 'em!
Unfortunately, not everyone wants to see you do good, or live your dream. There are some dream stealers and they are probably in your circle. They are your frenemies. Yes, your friends and enemies, yet you don’t know they are your enemy because they smile in your face, yet they are secretly hoping and wishing that you fail at whatever you’re doing. Of course you don’t see them as an enemy because you wouldn’t knowingly associate with someone who is plotting your demise. No, they become your friend. They infiltrate your life, and at the right moment they do something that makes you question their friendship.
Please feel free to share the logo below with your friends, on your websites, blogs, Facebook, Twitter, and everywhere! Spread the love!
http://www.amazon.com/Straight-Your-Best-Friend-Relationships/dp/1932841563/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1285945886&sr=1-1
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